Postby Ramblinrose » Mon Mar 25, 2019 5:16 pm
My day has been rolling along quite nicely.
Picked up footprints, made breakfast, put away laundry,showered, got in 6250 steps so far, ate lunch and sat in the sun, legs only for 20 minutes.
Sweetie wants to go out for dinner so I needn't worry about that today.
Interesting conversations concerning husbands and wife relationships. Sweetie and I have always done our own thing as well as spending time together.
Some of our interests match and like others, some don't. I am an extrovert most of the time and he is an introvert. He doesn't like to travel home with me unless its a special occasion. And I believe he would have skipped my son's wedding if I had let him. We had great honest conversations before we moved in together about our expectations of what our relationship would look like so we were both knew what to expect.
Sweetie loves old movies, John Wayne and cowboys. I don't, at least most of the time. I like spies, adventure and murders. I read books and he reads on his computer. We both love the beach and being outside. He seldom if ever visits his friends at their homes and I am free to meet up with mine when ever I want. I travel and he stays home to take care of Wlliis...his choice. We eat out often, not only because of the food, but because we usually end up having great table conversations. He can hardly go a day without his nose in all his political blogs he loves to read, and I need my coffee and Perry in the mornings.
I love to exercise at the gym in the early mornings and he walks every night. I need people and he doesn't.
We've had many conversations about retirement and what it should look like. Sweetie retired as CEO and President of his company at 45, downsized and taught himself how to program. I can hardly figure out how to save a file. He reinvented himself and started a new company after teaching himself 3 computer languages, and for the first 12 years of our lives I would loose him for weeks at a time while he worked on a project. I was ok about it because I knew it would only be a temporary thing.
Sweetie says its hard for a man to retire because whatever his career had been, it is how a man defines himself. And retiring means loosing his identity and purpose. Sweeties brain is constantly working...constantly. That why once he stopped doing his second career he decided to build our Shelby Cobra, which by the way came in 23 boxes, along with the frame, motor and transmition. Took him three years and he had never built a car before. He loved the challenge cause it kept his brain busy, and I totally get that.
One of the reasons we are looking for a different place to live is because we want to move into a 55+ active community. All my friends here are gals that I worked with and we have little in common as far as doing activities together. I am much more active than they are and most are either tied up with taking care of parents or grandchildren. I need to be around more like people like myself and Sweetie recognizes this. As long as he has his computer, me and Willis he is totally content. We are looking for a place that will be closer to the ocean and offer other outside types of activities. We love to day hike. I would love a camper like Elizabeth, but he wants a hotel room and available food. So we compromise, which I believe is the heart of any good relationship.
Live Boldly, Take Risks, No Regrets...Jilliam Michaels
going to do the upstairs dusting and vacuuming until tomorrow.
So I dropped off at the cleaners and went to grocery, and when done at the grocery it was raining cats and dogs and small hail too. I got my car loaded, and then called dd back, she had called while I was grocery shopping and I said I'd call her back....so it turned out she was at same grocery by then and I went in (wet) and caught up with her while she did some of her grocery shopping. I bailed after a bit tho, and got on home. I told her that Muffin would be missing me, since it was stormy. 
