Elizabeth wrote:Did I read Kathryn's post correctly? Someone wants to train herself to catch POOP?!?!?! What the phooey?!?!?!
Uh, yes. Not me. Dd. And not literally catch the poop but catch dgs in the moment of releasing poop. Which is actually fairly easy. Even I can do it. We have the "poop position" for him and he responds to the word 'poop' by straining. Doesn't always poop but the majority of times will release gas. Dd figured if he's that far along, she may as well rework the 'poop position' to be over a potty and see if she can cut down on some of the dirty diapers.
Not necessarily less work in the immediate future (probably more) but she has several friends who adopted the hands-off approach to toilet training figuring the child would train itself. Instead, each one got used to going in a diaper and being in wet diapers and so refused to get with the program. Dd wants dgs to know there is another alternative and to at least get use to the idea of sitting on a potty. (The friends were all panic trying to get their kids toilet trained before school started so many were almost 4 and some older than 4 and some ran into problems with daycares and untrained older children.)
Worldwide, in non First World Cultures, children are often trained before being able to walk. The child is worn by the mother, there is no diaper and quickly the moms learn the signs. They hold the baby away from them and let it pee/poop wherever. They also make a wooshing sound as the child pees/poops. The baby associates being held out and the sound with relieving themselves. I'd point out that hand washing one's clothing and limited water, plus the absence of new-fangled child experts, means this method has survived even to today.
The trend to later 'child-led' toilet training in North America is something that happened in the 50's with the introduction of automatic washing machines and disposable diapers in the 1960s. For some reason children in the 1920s started training at 12 months. Now it is likely not before 2, and often 3. Have children physically changed? Nope. There was the fear of psychological damage purported by the child experts but I'd have to say there's little sign children today are better adjusted than they used to be. Actually, I'd say there is no sign children today are better adjusted than they used to be and possibly worse adjusted.
In the case of dgs there are lots of physical cues that dd picks up and she reinforces with sounds and sign language so he will be able to communicate a need before having words. Once the weather gets better, I wouldn't be surprised if, on hot days, she tries the African method of wearing him without a diaper. We'll see. As much as she's germ phobic, she loves science so might just try that experiment.