Incentive
Fear
Achievement
Growth
Power
Social
I've been thinking a lot about this today.
I know I am not motivated by
power, b/c I don't really even LIKE being in a "powerful" position. Some might say teaching was a position of power/authority, but I never felt that was my strong suit. And of course, some of you might think I am trying to have power in this current situation with ddil, but I am not really motivated by trying to control that situation -- I just want dh to be happy and stress-free. So I guess that is SOCIAL motivation.
I guess I am
socially motivated to the point that I do want to please people, when the people are family members.
I am also motivated by
incentive and
fear -- I think that was my motivation in school, at least, as a student -- I wanted to make good grades, and I wanted to avoid any disappointment/lectures from ddad.
That may have been some motivation by
achievement, as well, b/c dmom has said they never had to put any pressure on me -- that I always put too much on myself. I have always been something of a perfectionist -- in school, in relationships, in everything. I just kinda expect, and want, everything to be perfect -- and of course, that is very disappointing most of the time.
Incentive and fear are poor motivators for having a spotless house, b/c no one here cares at all, except me. And wanting it to be "perfect" is just so overwhelming that I literally pull the covers over my head and take a nap when I should be cleaning.
I should focus on the feeling of achievement -- especially SMALL victories.
I do not think
growth is a big motivator for me, b/c I think I am probably
too content in the state in which I find myself.
I do have
small victories for today -- although I didn't accomplish much until after 6:00 p.m.
After supper, I
* made long-postponed call to great aunt/uncle to wish them a belated 70th anniversary and explain dmom & my absence from their party
* stripped bed, sheets now in dryer, second load in washer
* kitchen s/s
Earlier today, I had lots of errands --
* insurance office
* post office (returned pkg for dmom, sent rsvp to cousin re: wedding)
* grocery store
* oil change
* talked to dmom -- she did not need groceries today, and said she did not need me to take her to dentist tomorrow
* talked with and made phone calls for dfriend going through the bankruptcy stuff
I may have to get her groceries tomorrow. If not, Wed. dh & I plan to go out there and get a chair to take to College Town.
I'm really concerned about whether dh can manage College Town this season anyway. He has felt TERRIBLE today. BP was 70/50.
DBIL called and said dniece had left LOTS of furniture in the condo, so we will likely only need to take the chair and maybe some lamps. Very, very good news, b/c I was worried about dh having to help ds load/unload a lot of furniture.
Tomorrow, I also need to call the cable company down there, so dh & ds can switch out a cable box when they go, and the realty company to see if they need to pick up our parking passes or have them mailed to us.
Also, we have a special election here tomorrow (state senator, since ours is now attorney general, you know.)
And, dcousins' grandmother (their father's mother) passed away, and I'm going to try to go to the visitation.
DH * if he can make it! * and ds/ddil sing at nursing home tomorrow night.
CUOP a little bit.
We never gave ds an allowance, but we probably should have. Not that he is a spend-thrift or anything these days, but they do have to watch their money very closely and I suspect neither of them have much experience with budgeting. It's probably a miracle they do as well as they do.
We've had lots of rain today, and I think some more tomorrow, but MAYBE it will clear up by Wed. I certainly hope so, with them moving furniture. I don't know if we (dmom/ds/etc) have a tarp for ds's truck anywhere or not.
Sooo happy for your dgd and dggs,
Lilac! Happy early birthday to your dmom, too!
Speaking of Kansas City... I have had
Kansas City Star, by Roger Miller, on my mind all weekend. Y'all can enjoy it too!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZQqJd0cXOgsWTG,
Twins! Hope all went well with the party.
Mondays are usually motivating for me,
Cathy, but dh has slept a lot today, so I tried to be quiet, and it led to a lot of laziness on my part.
I certainly hope dgs's school takes precautions re: the eclipse viewing. I've been seeing all this stuff on FB re: glasses that are not really safe...
* shesh * And you can't depend on kids to keep the glasses ON correctly...
I saw where one school in our county is allowing students to stay home to watch and it will not count as an absence. That would probably be the SAFEST way to allow children to watch.
DH and I do not have glasses yet, either. I am going to call my uncle and see if he has any extra welding goggles/glasses.
I want to see it, but I don't want to go blind! Sitting on the front porch and seeing the EFFECT of it may be enough for me, you know? I think we get about 95% totality here.
Waving to EVERYONE!!!! Hope y'all have a good night and a good Tuesday!