On Target Tuesday

[Ramblinrose]

Blessed .... I am in a similar situation with my mom. She is now temporarily living with my brother and is being very nasty and negitive to everyone around. My brother called
To talk to me about it today.

My mom is physically well enough that we will let her live back in her condo with help. The problem is she too is isolated and has no friends any more and expects family to fill in the blanks for her... which isn't possible. Visiting angles will be helping out 3-5 days a week depending on how she does. She too would not join in functions at the 55+
Community when she first moved there nine years ago because... ok Elizabeth I can see you rolling your eyes... she had no male escort...it's a generational thing, but her loneliness is the consequence of her behavior. And now all she does is talk negitivly to the point that most get tired of being around her.

In the past my mom was very social and independent, but now she has begun to enjoy this learned helplessness because of the attention she gets.

I told my brother he needs to set boundaries with her as to what is acceptable within his family and I am very supportive of that. I also believe my mom is suffering from depression which is quite common among the elderly as their world changes and they loose control of their lives. Social services are helping out now and her PT people will come to her home for where sessions. I told my brother to look into any mental health services as well. And perhaps her dr or visiting angels can help with getting her checked for antidepressants...

I will be returning home in a week or two to get her set up in her condo. My brother was worried abt me coming, but I am much more prepared for my mom this time. And I too am setting boundaries. I am only going back for two weeks and will not allow her to wallar in herself pity. I spent twenty years changing behaviors in kids and am ready to do so with my mom.

Fortunately my brother and I are a strong unified unit with this... he is going to have a conversation with my mom tonight what she needs to do and I will reinforce what he says. We have agreed that if she can't make this move back to her condo, which is her wish, then we will have no other options than to return her to the assistant living facility that she just left... tough love is difficult, but sometimes for the benefit of the entire family needs to be done. My brother and I know others may disagree with others opinions, but we also understand there are just somethings that need to be done for the safety of our mother and the sanity of OUR immediate family.

My poor brother for the every first time told me he felt guilty about having our mom in his house, but I told home sometime you'd make the right choices and sometimes you make the choices right and not to worry becaauae I know he truly loves our mom, but he has to think about his own family first.

[DeeClutter]

Just realized I've not CI all day. Had rehab this morning. DDIL called me about 9:15 and asked if I could go over to their RV and make sure dgs12 was up. He was to meet friends at our gate at 10am to go to Darien Lake Theme Park. Of course he wasn't even awake! She'd been calling him. Got him up and somewhat moving and told him I'd take him out front to wait for friend. So he had to hustle to do that. Of course he was a somewhat grumpy 12 (almost 13) year old being awoken. Went on from there to my rehab appointment.

Had a fairly difficult day there. I was already in quite a bit of pain when I got there for some reason and was tired. But I made it through. BP was up more than usual too for most of the session. Came home and we ate lunch on the deck. Then I spruced up a bit in here, sat down to read and dozed off, naturally. Had some storms go through here too, Kathryn, but for the most part the heavy stuff missed us. Know a house was hit about 1/4 mile from our old house/dson-A's. Caught on fire but sounded like it was put out fairly quickly.

The family who lives in the house on the campground property gave dh a bunch of peaches the other day. They are so good! Enough so that I'm having that for dinner -cereal with fresh peaches.

Looked online at my labs this afternoon. Looks like everything is really good. Know my A1C is lower than it's ever been. Dr. should be happy with that. Doubt she'll be thrilled I don't seem to have lost any weight -and that is really frustrating me. Seems like I'm doing everything right and she should be able to tell that from the blood work. May ask my friend at the Dr's office to give me some more pointers. Certainly exercising enough and eating right.

[Nancy]

I am sort of on track with some things. Got the roast cooked to perfection on the crock pot. Was doing some hand lettering practice when part of my new order came of pens! Yippie. No kids here today again.
wrote a snail mail letter.

Does any one remember the penmanship practice sentence with Every girl and boy ... or something similar. I've got the fox one Trying to remember the rest. Could not find it on google.

I did two rounds of weed pulling one in front one in back.

[LadyMaverick]

Good Day. Long Day. Busy Day.

My day -
6:15 am - out the door to walk. It was sprinkling and I was watching the radar on my phone to make sure I made it back home before the main storm arrived. No need to worry. When the sunrise happened the storm clouds disappeared and a rainbow appeared. I was damp from the walk but no lightning (my biggest concern).
7:00 am - Personal care - s2s, hair, teeth, face, etc
7:30 am - worked 15 minutes on "Dirty 30"
7:45 -DS9 up and fed breakfast
8:00 - 11:30 Homeschool Day #34
11:30 - 12:15 Prepared lunch and served it
12:15 - 1:45 Took DS9 to speech therapy appt
1:45 - 3:00 Me to dentist to get a cavity filled
3:00 - 4:00 List shopping at Sam's & WM ($300~~ worth)
4:00 - 5:00 travel home, dropped DS9 off at DMom's home, unloaded the groceries and put the cold items away.
5:00- 6:30 travel to/from and attend WW meeting -- I lost a pound this week and DH lost 5 pounds.
6:30 - 7:00 pick up DS9 from DMom's, travel home, cook cheeseburgers & FFries.
7:30 - finally sat down & relax for the first time since I woke up this morning. ahhhh...

[Lilac]

CathyS, I loved the Donna Parker books.

Lucylee, I wore Merle Norman for years. Then 10 years ago I switched to Arbonne. I have been wearing Younique for almost 3 years. My mom was selling it so I switched. When she quit selling it, I started buying it through my cousin. My mom is back to Merle Norman.

Dm came to Wichita today. We went to her favorite, O live G arden for lunch. When dgd21 came down to go eat, she had talked to the babies Dr. She said they were moving the baby to Family Care. This is where you are in a room with baby, for at least 24 hours, taking complete care of him. Dgd will probably spend 2 nights and 1 day there and will be sent home Thursday. She has an a m Dr. appt on Thursday. They said they will keep the baby while she goes to the Dr.Dd2 was already planning to come on Thursday to help us move to a new place. Anyway her and the daddy will both come. I wish they would come tomorrow after work, but it's not My call.

Dgd21 was not happy that Dm announced on FB that they were probably going home Thursday. Dm also announced on FB when the baby was born. She thinks she is entitled to be the town crier, no filter.

Better go. They hadn't brought her any supper. If they still haven't, I need to.

[Kathryn-in-Canada]

I liked Donna Parker books but my absolute favourites were Trixie Belden. I wanted to be Honey.

The storm never came (it went south of us) and dh and I ended up going out for supper and to a few stores looking for plugs for an ancient air mattress I want to take with us. The plugs are gone (which is weird because I kept them attached to the mattress in a zip lock bag. My exercise ball plug works but I have only one and there's three air holes to be plugged.

No luck at 2 stores so I had him drop me at the camping store. Still no luck but I found some twisty cable 'twist ties' that will plug the holes nicely. Don't ask how much... When we are done we can use them for cables.

I walked home so got in a mile. Still very few steps again today.

No time is confirmed for my meeting tomorrow night but we are hoping for 7 p.m.

[LadyMaverick]

I'm working on registering for a Glow Run in October to support our little town fire department. I'm waiting for an email with the Total $$ amount and the link to PayPal. I want to finish the registration before going to bed because the price increases $10 at midnight tonight.

Spent a half hour on the phone with DGS10 celebrating his last day of being 10 years old. He is a busy kid. After attending a private school he went to guitar lessons then to gymnastics practice. He was arriving home at 8 pm and still needed to do his homework.

[lucylee]

Yes -- Kathryn -- Trixie Belden! I wanted to be Honey, too, but I was much more the Trixie type. I was a big tomboy when I was little. I still have my Trixie Belden books.

[Lilac]

I too loved Trixie Belden books. The summer after our freshman year of high school, a friend of mine and I read all of the. TB books. One day we went to a lake and a male classmate swam up to us and said, hi Lilac, hi Purple. We looked at each other and one of us claimed to be Trixie and the other Honey. We proceeded to tell about some of our adventures. He enjoyed hearing them and was glad he met us. Several weeks later we started high school. We were walking down the hallway and ran into him. He said, hi Trixie, hi Honey. We said you know we are Lilac and Purple. He scratched his head and walked off. Years later, db2 became good friends with him and his 2 brothers. I once asked db2 if he had ever mentioned this and db told me know. The things 2 goofy girls can come up with.

Lucylee, hang onto those books, someday your Dgd might enjoy them.

[BookSaver]

Checking in. I need to sit a bit for a break.

Target Update:
(1) Path is cleared and swept between the front driveway and the basement laundry room. DH helped a little.
(2) I have I think 1 more hour to do tonight in the laundry room itself before I'll be able to relax enough to sleep.
(3) The kitchen still looks awful so I will work on it in the morning.

Delivery/installation scheduled for "sometime between 12 and 4" in the afternoon. I assume I'll get a phone call when they are on the way here, maximum 30 minutes advance warning.

Tomorrow I'll keep cleaning the kitchen and dining room until they get here. I know there is no way to avoid being embarrassed at how bad they look. I need a washer & dryer in the house, and I can't carry the machines down the stairs myself.

In the laundry room, I piled everything that is staying in the room onto the old machines and counter so I could clear out the clutter, sweep the floor, and wipe down the portable shelves. To finish the cleaning tonight I need to put things back on the rolling shelves and thoroughly wash the counter before I put things back on it and under it.

I've moved both machines back & forth as much as I can to sweep around and under them. However, the room is too small to move them far. I'll need to be ready with the broom as soon as they haul out each of the old machines so I can clean quickly without slowing them down.

It's amazing how much stuff was in a room the size of a walk-in closet. I moved all the laundry baskets & hampers up to the bedroom for now. I made several trips out to the shed to put stuff in the trash & recycle bins. It's going to be so nice doing laundry in there now with so much extra space.

OK, my water mug is empty. I'll refill it and go back to work. Stay On Target!