Postby Elizabeth » Wed Oct 18, 2017 5:30 pm
Well, this is just sad. The xBFF just sent out two party invitations, one for Christmas, which she has been doing for years. The other for Halloween. I have been doing Halloween for our group of friends since 1988. It is the weekend after mine, but of course, mine will fail in the comparison. She already does: Christmas, Easter, and birthdays for herself, her daughter, her boyfriend, another mutual friend, and the mutual friend's son. Why does she have to take over my one and only party of the year? I know I don't "own" Halloween, but seriously? When I moved my parties to the weekend before the weekend before Halloween, it was in case my daughter had activities, not to allow her to take over. It would be nice if no one showed up, but they will. I can't really skip, because DD15 will want to go, and the x and I usually swap her off at these parties. I have not replied yet. I wish I had another party to go to. My party will probably die in a few years thanks to her. At least I got the invitations out first, but she won't make that mistake next year.
She used to be a nice person. That was before she decided that the x and the other woman were her BFFs. She knows everything they did, but her reply was always, "They've never done anything to me." I guess Jeffery Dahmer and the Unabomber are welcome in her house, they haven't harmed her either. I may not be welcome, because I hate chickens that attack me. Funny thing is, whenever she tires of a boyfriend, we are all expected to drop him. I did drop the one who was evil (to her, not me), but refuse to drop people she just doesn't like anymore. She doesn't like my friend N, because when they first met, N was "such a downer". This was three months after she was widowed, during her first December alone in 14 years. During our marriage, the x didn't really like my xBFF. Maybe he does now, because she is the only one left of our mutual friends who socializes voluntarily with them. The others do talk to them at xBFF's parties, but don't seek them out otherwise.
Why is my life such a soap opera? I am working on creating new friend groups from church, work, and the animal org. DD15 has invited some people from her school. I hope they come. The problem with my work friends is that Home City and Work City are an hour apart.
ETA: Just had to decline an invitation to a happy hour Friday. Big bummer. I have to pick up DD and can't be in two places at once. I need to make a list of friends and a schedule to call and/or meet with them. I've got to get away from the circle around xBFF. I wish Mom didn't invite her for Mardi Gras. Things are also complicated by the fact that traveling companion friend is xBFF's daughter's honorary grandmother. I guess I can put xBFF in the same category as the x and the other woman - someone I no longer like or respect, but am forced to be polite due to circumstances. Do I want to go to the Christmas party or can I scrounge some other commitment? Can I pretend to have another party during her Halloween? Or SOME other commitment? I have good friends who do go to the xBFF's parties, because she expands her circle to encompass anyone she meets through me and anyone else. This used to be a good thing.
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Elizabeth on Wed Oct 18, 2017 6:22 pm, edited 1 time in total.