ARGH! I can't keep all the balls in the air. My juggling ability needs some tweaking.
DMom called to tell me she was home.
I asked her "Where did you go?" She said, "I left you a voice message telling you that I was going to the grocery store two hours ago." ARGH! I didn't hear my phone ring so I am aggravated with myself. I don't remember laying my phone down but I must of at some point. DMom is supposed to be able to get hold of me at all times. I always have text messages and tend to respond to those in groups when I take a break. If I took more frequent breaks or respond to text messages as they come in, then I would have seen DMom's voice message.
I would have as much success telling a wall to not be flat as I would telling DMom to stop baking banana bread. It's what she does. She used to bake cookies and pies but her hands shaking so much (Parkinsonism) makes cooking those difficult. So all that pie and cookie baking is funneled into banana bread baking. 5-15 loaves a week is normal for her. The produce guy at the local grocery store calls DMom on the phone to let her know he has bagged the banana's for her that ready for bread baking. DMom gives all those loaves of banana bread away. Family, friends, doctor office, mail person, neighbors, total strangers, etc - everyone gets banana bread.
I know 100000% sure DMIL is in the process of baking cookies to give away for Christmas. 100's of cookies. Several kinds of cookies. That is what she does. Each day leading up to Christmas she bakes a different kind of cookie. She assembles beautiful platters of cookies to give away.
Both of our 86 year old DMom's (DMom & DMIL) still live alone and cling to their routines and independence. They are set in their ways.
1. Know what you want.
2. Go after it relentlessly.