I like that... what are the weeds in my garden - a nice metaphor
I loved yesterday and today's topic - I never thought of things this way.. as tools and weeds
My weeds: (not working for me things) (what's that dr. phil thingy: how's that working for you?)
big big one: my lack of fitness and not going to the gym because I don't put it first and foremost
tv (if I had my way I would not have tv's in the house)
clutter - dh's and dd youngers
in the old days.. fear of going out of my comfort zone - fear of being successful bc I thought i would have to keep it up continually and fear of failure.
games that family will play - learning not to be pulled in is important
biggest: lack of focus and spinning wheels in my brain of too many things I could do.
Old days: believing that everyone wanted to be fair and fighting when people were mean or over bearing. I used to believe that people would listen to each other and everyone wanted the same thing. This was a great thing to learn not to deal with. I let others bother me and believed you could talk anything out but learned fast that not everyone wanted that. Boundaries became my tool.
A tool I forgot about: having the ability of saying no without feeling guilty especially if someone else wasn't happy or angry because I said no. I now love to say exactly what we can or can not do (kindly but firmly).