Yeah, if you need to eat because your blood sugar is 48, LadyM, you need to eat. If that's considered a lapse they can jump in a lake!
I think my best advice is "If you're doing all you can, that's all you can." I had to tell myself that a lot as temple prez. My perfectionism starts in with "You should be doing this" or "You should do that." And I have to remind myself that if I'm already doing my best, I can't do any more. That's it. Although on the other hand, I do acknowledge that sometimes things are "good enough." Yes, I could have spent two more hours on that project and got closer to perfect, but that's good enough. Always that inner struggle.
The other piece of advice I repeat to myself is "Not my circus, not my monkeys." I don't have to make every wrong right again. It would be nice to have that superpower but it's okay not to get involved.
Dh was appalled when I said I had ordered a dorm type refrigerator for my office upstairs and said that I should just trot myself downstairs for refills of water. OTOH, it breaks my focus to come downstairs where there's food and other pursuits. And I hope to be using the treadmill again because I can't always get in steps, and having cold bottled water up there will a treat. OTOH, I struggle with using so much bottled water. I used to refill, then "they" started talking about how the plastic broke down. Maybe I'll take a gallon of water up to refill? Or take some reusable water bottles. I do recycle the plastic bottles, btw.
Great news, Elizabeth! With your great review yesterday (which I would have predicted knowing you) and the good testing results you are on a roll!