Postby helia » Thu Sep 06, 2018 9:30 am
Stopping by. .. Heading to the gym since it was raining here a while ago. It looks like the rain has stopped, but I'm not sure I trust it so will forgo a jog. . .
Thinking about my day. . . I got the same work schedule I had last month. More hours than I want; I'm somewhat surprised, but the school is a bit short-staffed. We hired a new teacher from Canada, and her paperwork to work here as a non-US citizen is taking longer than expected to get processed. So, the other teachers are paying for that by being loaded up. We're hosting Th. dinner tonight, and I'm making a new-to-me recipe, which always makes me happy. M found it online yesterday, a vegan Thai curry, though I'm going to make it very much non-vegan and use chicken stock in place of veg. stock and throw in some chicken as well. I'd like to spend some time tonight working on syllabi, due tomorrow, so I can enjoy hanging out with friends S2, J, and K tomorrow a.m.. I think we're starting that weekly get together tomorrow.
Thinking about conflict. Have I already shared this here? Dd22 and M, dd22's friend staying with us, had a bit of a disagreement/encounter, which is unfortunate. Dh and I are staying out of it. Dd22 has moved out a little early, but she's told me she really enjoyed time alone yesterday. Basically, M is very emotionally needy and has been expecting a lot from dd22, long conversations and emotional support, which is dd22's wont, to be honest. However, dd22 has been a bit short with her, being stressed by the demands of her new job. M wrote dd22 a letter telling her she was being a bad friend, which made dd22 mad/ hurt her feelings. SO. .. my perspective is that there is fault on both sides. (1) M needs to expect less of dd22; she can't prop her up and give her all she needs. M needs to understand that dd22 is under a lot of stress and that her job already involves caring for other people. She only has so much emotional bandwidth herself. (2) Dd22 is a bit all or nothing with her relationships. She shouldn't have ignored/cut off M so completely. *sigh* I feel confident dd22 will see her fault. I'm not sure about M -- don't know her so well + she's not doing well and I know when we're not doing well it's easier to be a victim and harder to see our own faults and mistakes.
Well, that's what I'm thinking about this morning.
I'm going to the gym now and will think about something else!
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helia on Thu Sep 06, 2018 9:32 am, edited 1 time in total.