Elizabeth - I agree with you up to a point. Sometimes life happens and it just stinks. However, I do not want to raise a whiny, ungrateful child. I understand that life is full of hard experiences. We all experience those days and we learn acceptable and better ways to respond. Give up? cry? Blame someone? Throw a temper tantrum? All those responses are normal responses a child has. However, having a pity-party or bad attitude doesn't make the bad experiences/days go by faster or easier. Learning some ways to get through those hard times does help.
When DS10 is having a bad attitude he literally can not do his school assignments. He just sits there, stares and pouts. When DS10 has a good attitude he is pleasant & eagerly gets his work done so he can have time to do fun things. It is not an option, he is going to do that school work. So when the bad attitude shows up, he can choose ways to adjust his attitude or I will.
DS10 went with DH to church. DSIL just pick DGD7 up. I am all alone. Ahhhh....quiet.
Time is precious. Waste it wisely.