Postby Elizabeth » Tue Dec 11, 2018 1:14 pm
Hi everyone! I got groceries and cat food, but dance class was cancelled because I was the only one who showed up. The performance is on the 16th and there would have only been two rehearsals before that. The teacher and I decided that our class would not be performing, just not enough time to prepare or people committed to it. I made progress on the minutes and notes but have not finished them. Stayed up too late on those @#$%!!! computer jigsaws. Why do I do this to myself? Tonight is Girls' Night Out, which will probably be dinner + homework. I have suggested to the x that we cut DD16 off the fan fiction sites completely. It has affected her grades for two years. Cold turkey time.
Harriet: The planner group was started by a mutual friend (MF) of me, the other woman, and the xBFF. The xBFF has spent the past six years telling all and sundry what good friends I am with the x and the other woman, deliberately misinterpreting my politeness for an actual desire to be in their company. This better fits her fantasy that life is really a rom-com. (By now, I am supposed to be remarried and taking vacations with the x and the other woman with my new husband because we are such good friends and have so much in common. I am also supposed to recognize that they were meant to be together and my 21 years with the x was to prepare him for his true happiness with her. And my true happiness with the man her script calls me to find.) She has even insisted that we were all good friends while I was explaining to another divorcee how hard it is, but that it is better to maintain civility. xBFF interrupted to tell her about the "great relationship" we all have and what good friends we all are. (She cannot grasp that I deserve better friends). It is possible the xBFF encouraged the other woman to join, telling her I want her to be there. It is possible that xBFF encouraged MF to invite her. xBFF believes it is good for me to see as much of them as possible so we can remain great friends. It also allows me to see how "they were just meant to be" (her words) and encourage me to "move on" (her definition = find a new man, my definition = best revenge is living my life well). It is also possible that the other woman simply found the group herself, either randomly or by looking at MF's online activities. My bet's on xBFF though, she is so sure she knows what is best for me.