Postby Kathryn-in-Canada » Sat Jan 26, 2019 10:38 pm
Three of the executive have been to the hospital to say their goodbyes. John is on life support and barring a miracle will pass soon after the holder of the power of attorney arrives (he was on his way to Hong Kong.) Should his heart fail before that, the doctors have ordered Do Not Resuscitate. The ICU nurse said that in her 15 years there, she has never had a patient with so many to visitors coming to say goodbye. John's support workers are there with him, each of the group home residents have been brought in as well as other members of the organization and friends as they hear the news.
One of the workers commented that at least he is at peace while he lies there. His body is usually in motion at all times, either rocking or waving his hand (or both!) She'd notice it even when she'd check on him at night.
I'm sitting here crying. My last conversation, on Wednesday, with John was about icy walking and being very careful. He had fallen on ice in October and was asking if I thought management was doing better with the salting because of his fall. It was a bad night to ask, we had just had 9 - 10 inches of snow and then freezing rain so the walking was treacherous, with the areas that had been plowed, now icy and high winds blowing snow on top of the ice to hide it. It was too cold for salt to work. It's been that way for most of the past 2 weeks. I told him I wasn't sure but it was really important to be very careful. He went off saying, yes, very careful, very careful. His verbal tic was to always repeat what you said.
Dh and I walked to the pub tonight, taking the path that John would have taken. He fell coming back from the bus, but we don't know where. Even with my grippers on, my feet slipped badly many times, as did dh. Crossing one street we each slipped, caught by the other since we walk arm-in-arm. I slipped on the way to the pub, dh as we headed home reversing our steps. I've declared we will not be walking anywhere until the weather warms up (not forecast to happen for the next couple of weeks.)
One will still have to be careful in parking lots (and ds's driveway!) but there is no reason to increase the risk by walking longer distances when we can take the car places.
When I'm not crying, I'm working on the dang financial statement. In receipts we are out 33 cents. I found an email from last June talking about that 33 cents so it is an old friend. Or enemy, depending on how you look at it. We fudged the numbers back then, so now I just have to figure out how so we fudge them the same way now. For expenses there is a place where we are $9.33 off. The $9 is leftover from me having a receipt for 245 but the person was paid 254. And then our old friend 33 cents.
But there are other places we don't match so I'm still trying to figure out what I did. I think I'm the source of one of the problems so I'm looking hard to see where and how.