Cathy - I love hearing the results of your rhubarb dump cake and grilled beets. I was wondering how they turned out. Thanks for sharing!
So there is more 'beyond our present knowing' food for thought
Lynlee - Thanks for this insight
Nodding my head toward the implementation of Men's Sheds and Woman Sheds. It brings to my thoughts when I first read about The Red Tent concept.
LucyLee - I'm glad no one was hurt during the 3 vehicle incident. I find myself wondering if the driver is a diabetic and having a low blood sugar. They sound confused and unable to mentally process the events.
mourning is one of the greatest tools we have when we experience loss. It is through mourning that we come to a new morning.
I'm hoping thinking about mourning will be like Air Fluff, clearing out my head and allowing me to move on. Some of you might need Delicate and others are Mixed or Speed Dry.
I agree. Mourning is a vital process.
Some can be solved with minor changes, some are life changing
Listing them seems to be an excellent way to think through the changes that have happened. Once I see the losses then I can make a decision on how to proceed.
Losses over the past 3 months -
** Deaths.
• VDFriend death from the covid19 virus and his wife & sons in the hospital for a long period of time recovering from the virus. They are all home now but it will take months/years for their body to recover from the damage of virus & ventilator. It is more than just physical loss as their family business has been gutted.
Blessings from this loss are many when I step back to see the big picture. The bond of family and friendship has been strengthened as we mourned the death of VDFriend together. It doesn't help the pain from knowing we will never experiencing life with this VDFriend but it does bring a smile because he would be pleased with how we all gathered to support each other. As time passes a new normal is evolving.
• Cousin Gerald death. I have many cousins but Gerald has always been my favorite. When my oldest brother died I started noticing how much Gerald was like my brother in many ways. Their smile, their strength, their personality, the fact they never complain….NEVER complaining even when their end was physically horrible. I loved them both deeply and completely. I have nothing but good memories from the 60+ years spent with them.
Blessings from this loss is I have those memories and treasure them. The memories make my heart smile even though my eyes tear up at the loss of not having more time together.
** Loss of freedom
• The freedom to go where I want and when I want.
• The freedom to not think about every single detail needed to keep others safe from the invisible virus germs.
• The freedom to not fear to be physically close to others. I used to hug without a thought if it was dangerous and if I was putting my family/friends in danger with a single hug.
The Blessing from this loss of freedom is the gain of experience that I have the resilience in knowing it is a choice I make for this time. It is not who I will be for the rest of my life. It is a phase that I will get through and hopefully be stronger for the experience.
** Loss of public school
• DD8 lost 3 months of attending school.
• When public school resumes the changes are going to be life-changing for her. I don't see any way they can maintain the same group of kids that has been together for years. Some kids will have been crisis schooled at home and will be able to move forward. Other kids who went without any school for 6 months will probably have to start last year's grade again. DD8 will experience the loss of her current group of friends as they are split apart into separate grades.
Blessings - public schooling has been broke for a long time. This experience will force them to take a hard look at every aspect and become competitive if they want to continue having traditional Brick-n-Mortar public schools. Changes in public schooling have been needed for a long time. Now they are going to be forced to make them or not survive.
1. Know what you want.
2. Go after it relentlessly.