Postby Kathryn-in-Canada » Mon Jan 22, 2024 11:09 am
LadyM: I don't know the whole situation but in Trent's defense, has anyone told him that dh shouldn't be asked because the risk of falling having life shortening consequences is too great? If not, he may not think of it and only see your vibrant dh and think he's offering him ways to continue to feel vibrant and useful.
I agree it is dangerous. In 2019 and 2020 I had friends die as a consequence of falling on ice. Both doing nothing more dangerous than walking, one on his driveway, the other on a path at a bus station.
I'm back.
Speaking of dangerous, dgs has got too heavy for me to play with him fully anymore. He loves to ask to be picked up and then turns into a 30lb sack of potatoes and doesn't cuddle in, he wants to flip out of my arms or be thrown up in the air. And when I was down on the floor, crawling from one part of the train set to the other, he climbed onto my back and I let him but immediately realized my mistake.
I made it to my meeting on Friday afternoon but by Friday night I could tell my back was spasming. By Saturday morning I could only walk with a cane or by moving from piece of furniture to piece of furniture for support in case my leg buckled and I collapsed. Getting onto, and up from, the floor to do my physio was a production and I was in pain and exhausted from a terrible night's sleep. I couldn't get comfortable in any position until eventually I fell asleep on my side on the couch for a few hours, then woke up feeling awful.
I lost all of Saturday, only managing a shower to get dressed and one load of laundry with dh's help. By the end of the day, I could sit on the edge of a straight chair for a while, so did that since I was tired of standing or lying down.
I was at 30% capacity yesterday. The pain was down to steady ache, not pain, most of the time. I managed to get 2 loads of laundry done and at night managed to address emails. I could sit on my regular recliner, properly. I could get up and down to do physio no problem and could do the stretches properly (I was so tight on Saturday, I was basically barely able to bend.) Despite sleeping a lot of the day on Saturday and then overnight with only one interruption in the night, I still managed a 2 hour nap on Sunday afternoon.
Today, I suppose I'm a bit better. I'm strong enough now that I can do a golfer's bend easily (couldn't do that on Saturday) so am getting more things done around the apartment. We have a long drive today. Basically, 1 hour to a luthier, then an hour to dinner, then 2 hours home. I have no idea how I'll cope but will bring lots of pain pills with me. Most of the time I can walk around the apartment without pain and am pretty steady on my feet.
The bed is stripped and the sheets in the washer. The bed is very low so I doubt I can remake it without dh doing the bending (golfer's bend works for pulling of the sheets but I won't be able to put them on with only one hand.) The plants are watered (which involves using a sturdy step stool.)
I'm still not dressed.
Ds called to see if I could babysit today, I said even if we didn't have the trip to the luthier, I would have said no, I have dgs again on Thursday (just for the day) so need to get stronger and can't risk a step backwards.
Next up, onto the floor for a round of physio and then get dressed. My hair looks awful (I showered on Saturday but couldn't style my hair so it is a mess) but I think I'll save a shower for tomorrow. In theory, I wouldn't usually shower today and I don't want to spend my small amount of energy on that.