Well I am aggravated! Just lost a long post, and I was SURE I had saved it as a draft!!!
Anyway... setting priorities, as
Twins said... since NOTHING got done yesterday, EVERYTHING needs done today. I'll explain later.
Main priorities today are to
[ ] wash car (at the drive thru carwash)
[ ] go to Wmart for a quick run for this week
[x] change into warmer clothes
[ ] dgrdaughter's softball game tonight (We just THOUGHT we were cold Sat. morning -- it's supposed to be in the 40s when tonight's game is over)
I'm sorry if you were looking for adventure,
LadyM, but relaxing and enjoying the quiet and calm at home sounds great to me too, LOL! Although I would not complain if dh wanted to take me to the beach.
I hope your ds has a ball on his trip!
Blessed, I know your garden will look beautiful. I wish I enjoyed gardening and was good at it. I'd love to have a few more flowers, and I REALLY miss my trees in front of the house... but neither of us is any good with planting and pruning, and we know we would be complete failures at keeping flowers looking nice. DH just can't physically do the work anymore of setting out trees and helping me dig, and I am not really a person who enjoys the outdoors that much. I'd just like to replace my trees and have some daffodils and tulips bordering my patio.
I will have to go back and read about
Twins' trip and
Mystery's ddaughter/child with the adulting situation. I missed everything yesterday. Well, since Saturday evening. Came home from that ballgame and fell asleep. Dgrands must have been tired too -- they were quiet and let me catch up on sleep.
Thinking of your dd younger, also,
blessed, as she makes plans for the future.
BTW -- can you explain dh's trach? I'm so confused, because I would have thought that would prevent him from talking and eating or drinking anything -- but it must not be like I picture it, because he seems to be doing so well. YOU are doing so well!!! You are an amazing caregiver!
Adulting IS hard. Even when you're 62.
It has been especially hard around here this weekend. This is why I was out all day yesterday.
My daunt passed away, the one who is married to crazy uncle. It was so sudden and unexpected; we are all in shock.
My dcousin called me Saturday night with the news -- she had fallen in the carport and apparently had a brain bleed. They called 911, but I don't think she ever fully regained consciousness.
Dcousin, oldest girl after me, has really stepped up. She is just like her mom, my dad's sister, who has always been the Energizer bunny. Dcousin and her husband went with duncle to get cemetery plots this morning, took him to the bank to check on their current balance, etc -- daunt always did EVERYTHING, and then took him to the florist to pick out flowers.
Yesterday I met dcousin and daunt at the funeral home with duncle, and we made sure the obituary was done, helped duncle pick out the casket, etc.
I basically just offered moral support -- dcousin is a natural leader and she took charge. I was THRILLED that she was/is willing to do this -- there is NO WAY I could have the patience to deal with my duncle at this point. Plus, dcousin's husband is a saint; he is just like her -- always willing to step up and help out anyone, anywhere. They are younger than I am, but only by about 7 years. They also have grandchildren and jobs, and I know they have their hands full.
(OTOH, they are the ones who have included duncle and aunt in all their family gatherings, and EXcluded my family, so I kinda think it's fine for duncle to be her project now. I told her of course, that I would do whatever I needed to, just let me know, etc... and I was going to meet them to pick flowers this morning, but duncle got in a rush and wanted to get it done earlier than she planned.)
Dcousin is doing daunt's hair for the funeral, and going to duncle's house today to make sure he has clothes ready for the service. She and her mom already picked out the clothes for daunt to be buried in.
* Oh -- I did spend several hours getting pictures ready for slideshow during the visitation, got those emailed to the funeral home this morning.
It's just such a shock. We were all expecting daunt to outlive duncle. They have both been unsteady on their feet for some time now -- lots of times, one or the other would fall and they'd have to call daunt and one of the boy cousins to help get the other one up. But he does have dementia, takes medication, and it is unlikely he will every manage his meds correctly, or that he will remember to eat correctly. He has probably never even opened a can of soup for himself. He has never managed any of their financial matters. It is just a bad, bad situation.
And he lives about 20 miles from me and dgirl cousin, about 15 miles from his sister and dboy cousins.
He seriously needs to be in assisted living, but I don't know how on earth anyone would convince him to go.
Anyway -- that's how I've spent the last 48 hours or so.
EXCEPT -- one GOOD thing -- ds's band played at two local churches yesterday, and we attended both services. So nice. The first church was the one we will likely go to if our church doesn't vote to leave the conference. Packed house, we know a lot of them, and I think we would love the preacher.
At the second church, the preacher is a long-time friend, and dmom went with us. It was especially good for her. Some of the songs held the message that was very meaningful to her in this time of loss. She is going to have a hard time with the loss of daunt. They weren't born sisters, but they've been "sisters" for 56 years now. Dmom was 22 and daunt was 20 when daunt and uncle married. And since they were both married to difficult men... they had a lot in common.
Plus -- dmom ALMOST fell again going to the car after that singing last night. Shaking my head. It makes me so nervous I can't stand it.
Dbro is coming home tomorrow, so he will help dmom at the cemetery and everything. That's a load off my mind.
Anyway -- gotta go wrap up. I already have on flannel jeans and two layers. Need a hooded sweatshirt, gloves, and coat. Brrrr...
"boys" (girls?) of summer??? Ha.
At least there's no SNOW here,
Cathy! Although I have watched baseball in the snow before! Dmom says never again. LOL.
PS -- nope -- walmart and car wash ain't happening today.