Okay... I'm TRYING to thrive in this new world I've landed in. I certainly didn't want to take this trip, but looks like I've got to learn to navigate the new territory.
And the hardest thing so far, I'm seeing already, is wanting to share things with him -- something funny on the news... something someone said... something that no one else would think funny, because it might seem disrespectful or irreverent, but he would share my thought that it was hilarious. This is going to be the hardest part.
But. Thriving.
Today,
* I have (unfortunately) cancelled his credit card and (fortunately, after two hours) got a new one headed my way in my own name. Sigh.
~~~ I did NOT want to cancel his/ours because it has a larger credit limit. But as I was explaining that this morning I had received a "declined card" email re: satellite radio... I told the lady that my husband had just passed away and that was why I had this huge, unusual charge. Sigh. She said they HAD TO cancel that card now that they had "official notice" of his death. Apparently he was the primary user and I was an "authorized" user.
The good thing about this is, now I don't have to be in a rush to cancel all the arthritis meds (Relief Factor) and creams, lotions, etc, that dh ordered, which have been recurring monthly charges on the credit card. Charges will just be declined, and I can notify them to cancel the product on my own timetable.
* I have been to the elem. and middle schools and dropped off "Oh the Places You Will Go" for dgs/dgd's teachers to sign. Also picked up a little gift -- Christmas ornament and key chain -- that a dear former teacher of dgs' had gotten for him. It's a little cardinal and it says "I am with you always."
~~~ While at middle school, I told them in the office, "Just keep an eye on him," and one of his teachers was in there and said, "When I saw him at the funeral, he told me, 'Pray for (dgd). She's too young to understand all this.'"
* Went to the florist, returned the stands that wind chimes and afghans were on...
* Asked them to get me a list of any addresses they had for plants and flowers. Lady said they would.
* Went to funeral home; I just felt a need to tell them how well-pleased we were with everything.
* Went to Sonic and got myself a medium sweet tea with cherry added.
In about 30 minutes, ds, dgrands, and I are going to dgs' ballgame. DDIL had to go to a disaster training session at work.
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(((HUGS))) and prayers for you as you recover from the broken wrist, Twins! You definitely need a day in "rest mode."
Nancy, I gave dgd bubble bath with "calming lavender" scent Monday night. DDIL could see no evidence of calming, sadly. Not that dgd was distraught or anything -- just that she and dgs were wild, running up and down the hall playing ball, etc.
Celebrating end of school year with LadyM and ds! Rose is exactly right -- it takes a while to decompress! Just enjoy yourself!
YES -- Rose -- Noseeums -- I've heard my brother talk about them in Florida and I didn't realize we had them here too. Oh my goodness. I'm still itching!!! I will DEFINITELY spray myself before going to the ballgame. (The previous bites were at the cemetery Tuesday night, so on concrete instead of grass, I'm thinking it might be better at the ballgame... but there's still the grass of the field itself and the playground -- I must spray dgrands!)
I will be eating supper at the ballgame, Cathy. This park always does good grilled hamburgers.
Hope you all have a good evening. I'm already feeling sleepy (although I did sleep well for about 6 hours last night).
A life well-lived and time well-spent. I'm trying, Harriet!