Another busy day around here...
* Threw out another fairly large bag of garbage...
* Called SS office...
-- which led to -- * Looked for marriage certificate.
I don't know that I have EVER seen our state marriage certificate. The only thing I can find is the fancy thing that the preacher signed at the wedding. SS wants the official state certificate, with a raised seal on it. I looked everywhere it could logically be. I am going to call the health dept tomorrow morning and see if I can get a copy. Finding it here in dh's stuff is impossible.* Looked at some financial stuff...
kinda going to be in limbo till at least October/November when some savings bonds mature.
DBro advises applying for new credit card with zero interest introductory offer. Then I can put funeral expenses on this and pay over 15-21 months or so, with no interest adding up. I am already looking online for that. I wonder if those have introductory credit limits that would not work with this expected $15,000-$18,000 expense I'm going to have with the funeral cost and the headstone order. * Called Retirement office --
they were closed. Today is a state holiday -- Confederate Memorial Day. There's some trivia info for y'all.* Took a few thank you notes to dbil for his use
* Went to drug store, gave them all dh's meds for disposal, got a rx for myself
* Went to post office
* Talked to dh's cousin --
her husband was a pall bearer and I wanted to make sure there was no re-injury to his hernia repair some months ago -- she says he's fine; she had him out working in the garage when I called.* Went to dgd's ballgame
* Third load of laundry is in the dryer, 1st and 2nd load are waiting to be hung to dry
* S/S bathrooms
Rose said --
Lucylee…it’s nice to see how well you are doing … you are definitely a Strong Southern woman just like Scarlett
Thank you so much. I don't know how strong I am. If I slow down to think, I start crying. Certain random thoughts while talking to dmom made me cry. I cried last night after I went to bed. I'm nervous about making a wrong decision, especially financially. But I'm trying.
I miss sooo much having him to share the funny things with, and the things that dgrands say and do.
I hurt for ds, who has lost HIS best friend. DS could talk for HOURS with dh... politics, sports, church situations, EVERYTHING. When ds was on the road late by himself, he would always call and we'd talk him home... and he can still call me, of course, but I don't have the same knowledge base of sports to keep the conversation going like dh would.
I want to continue managing money just exactly like we did when he was here... but the cash on hand has been reduced by about 40%, and the credit card limit is about a fourth what it was... so I
have to do some things differently, I think.
I know I complained sometimes (lots of times?) about dh, and I had that little lapse of sanity a couple years ago and all the "what might have beens," -- but I KNOW dh and I were meant for each other. Too many things worked together, against all the odds, to bring about this almost 45 year marriage that has been so blessed. Neither of us was perfect by a LONG shot... but we were perfect for each other. As we grew older, we sorta mellowed, and we learned to choose our battles... and we spent a lot of time just marveling at how amazing it was that God allowed us to meet and fall in love, and create this amazing little family.
I hope people don't think it's disrespectful or insensitive of me to be out and about -- like going to dgrands' ballgames -- I know if dh were alive, but if he were sick and unable to go to the games himself, he would insist that at least
I would go to support them. I don't know about Sunday School, but I think he felt bad sometimes because he thought that he was keeping me from going. I think it will be good for me to go. Maybe ds will start going with me, too. DDIL teaches dgd's class, so ds is sorta at loose ends for a place that he fits. This class has adults from my age to my dmom's age (or older, probably) so ds might think it was okay for him too. The teacher is a man who leads our home mission/outreach committee, and ddil works closely with him.
And
Nancy, it may seem that I am rushing some of this stuff, but I am just DETERMINED not to act like my dmom, who did virtually nothing for a year, except lie on the couch and cry. Y'all know how I worried about her, and finally had the doctor send her to de-tox to get her off Ativan.
I'm following advice to write everything in notebook, and just work through what has to be done. When I think of something else, I write it down.
I need to organize my notes, even there, though, because my list has become a jumbled up mess over the past few days.
Another thing for my list... return solar light. It just will not come on at all. I've moved it so that it got more sunlight, and it's still not working.
Glad you are observing Passover without having to do the hosting duties and all that,
Twins. Your contribution is an excellent idea.
Boy -- I wish my dmom could go to some classes about healthy feet and all that,
Harriet! That would be perfect for her. Her bunions are causing the majority of her problems, IMHO, but she says no, she does not think surgery would work any better this time than it did the last time. I think she just waited too long to have surgery -- she was approaching 70 at the time -- and I think her toes just gradually went back to their "natural" position (which is extremely UNnatural).
Cathy, I also consider my bed "made" if the bedspread/cover is pulled up over the pillows. I never put the pillow shams up or tuck in the bedspread at the pillows. Our bedspread is just another quilt layer. Putting pillow shams on and off just seems like a big waste of time.
LadyM, I definitely agree with your statement about state testing. Dgrands just finished up. Neither of them acted very stressed about it; dgs looks at it as a necessary evil, I think. At his age, he's kinda cynical about it (probably because of a lot of statements dh and I have made over the years.) DGD was a little concerned about it, I think, but elementary school teachers can get the "bluff" on their students a lot easier than middle school teachers.
I hope your dd has a good trip!
Tomorrow, I will
* call retirement service
* call health department
* go to my teacher group meeting (we are going to a local sheep farm)
* go back to drug store -- to get the allergy syringes
* go to another ballgame