Re: Declutter Strategy Meeting, May 2017
Posted: Wed May 24, 2017 4:05 pm
we are (or rather I am struggling) with the stuff. I am overwhelmed that it continues- I see progress but not an end. It's an issue for dd younger and dh.
we had a bit of a tiff He sees worth in almost everything (he says he doesn't but he does) and if he spent money on it he will not get rid of it. He sees mine or the girls stuff as junk - even when I get rid of my stuff or dds gets rid of their things; he asks why I am getting rid of it. Its a very hard process for him. He wants it clean but does not want to make decisions or work at it until he sees possibilities. He has 2 rakes that are broken and I suggested we get rid of it.. it was too much for him.
I will keep him out of my process and just put the things I find in his library, room, garage and he can decide. For dh: I will put the stuff in the garage in clear boxes until he wants it clean.
after dealing with peoples things I am realizing the stuff doesn't make room for us or making memories.
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dh and I put the old fridge outside for the pick up people from the city tomorrow after 6 am. and sealed it so no children could get hurt.
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dh is happy now - he went up in our room and smiled - the process is horribly hard on him and very depressing for me as I don't see an end to the amount of stuff we kept the last years since his cancer/and multiple family members passing and dd youngers illness and my health. I will say there is progress.
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brought down one (only) of laundry - for now there isn't anymore
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packed dd youngers smaller wet suit
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All baskets are gone from our bedroom. gone!
we had a bit of a tiff He sees worth in almost everything (he says he doesn't but he does) and if he spent money on it he will not get rid of it. He sees mine or the girls stuff as junk - even when I get rid of my stuff or dds gets rid of their things; he asks why I am getting rid of it. Its a very hard process for him. He wants it clean but does not want to make decisions or work at it until he sees possibilities. He has 2 rakes that are broken and I suggested we get rid of it.. it was too much for him.
I will keep him out of my process and just put the things I find in his library, room, garage and he can decide. For dh: I will put the stuff in the garage in clear boxes until he wants it clean.
after dealing with peoples things I am realizing the stuff doesn't make room for us or making memories.
------------------------------
dh and I put the old fridge outside for the pick up people from the city tomorrow after 6 am. and sealed it so no children could get hurt.
---------------
dh is happy now - he went up in our room and smiled - the process is horribly hard on him and very depressing for me as I don't see an end to the amount of stuff we kept the last years since his cancer/and multiple family members passing and dd youngers illness and my health. I will say there is progress.
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brought down one (only) of laundry - for now there isn't anymore
-----------------
packed dd youngers smaller wet suit
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All baskets are gone from our bedroom. gone!