lucylee you aren't failing me.
I like your idea about getting more fruits and vegetables in with the emphasis on fruit for right now. While you are getting ready to try again just being aware of what you are consuming during the day will help a lot. If you can't count your starches just by mentally reviewing the number of starch foods you have in a day will help.
If you have 8 starch foods in a day then you know you are done. your pb crackers, granola bar, crackers at lunch are 3 starches. Don't worry about the actual count just that you had 3 starch foods. Then the kashi, hamburger buns (2), fries, cone, and ice cream (2). That would give you 10 starch foods - not starches but starch food for the day.
No I haven't wasted my time. You will reach the point you want to eat healthy.