Postby Harriet » Fri Aug 29, 2014 4:30 pm
It seems to me it could be considered a "for religious reasons" issue, blessed, which would certainly place the entire issue in a new light for lawyer, school, RA and the other family. In fact, some school leaders wouldn't even start breathing for a while after hearing those words, because they are quite powerful legally. This other young lady needs to learn diversity. As in, when it's against someone's beliefs to bring in an unmarried man, it's just against their beliefs, and that's the way it is. Therefore, if you want to bring in an unmarried man to a living situation, you accept that you may face objections, and you can't just say "that's mean" and then get your way.
Your dd wants the status quo: a women's dorm room the same as countless other women have had at universities all over the country. The other family wants to make a CHANGE to co-habitation. If because of religious reasons your family says "no" to a CHANGE, that's called learning about diversity.
I don't know about a lawyer - that may be an excellent idea. But I do think this is a family matter, not just the student. Most college freshmen are still of an age that their parents are responsible in the eyes of the law. They have no money, so the parents are paying for housing. It's the parents' business. It seems to me that you and dh could FORBID signing to allow the young man, and take the burden of responsibility off dd's shoulders, but I don't know.
Again, sorry to butt in. I just think it's so unfair.