Thank you Harriet and Indiana for all your information. Life is hard sometimes, but it is what it is and we have to accept the good with the bad. You are both angels to your families and invaluable to those who need you.
Like I said in PWYC, I was hugely disappointed with my choices when I went hunting for planners. I was in the closest store to the dentist, running out of time too. When I didn't find what I wanted I wanted to get a 5x8 looseleaf notebook, add my own indexes, papers, pocket pages, self adhesive pockets on insides of covers...but they even had none of that.
What I've ended up with is adequate but not ideal. I must open a zippered case and remove either the calendar or the book. I have added some tabs to the book for name/address; medicines/ a master page with MiL policy numbers, etc., and the balance for writing notes, etc. Going into two seperate books I've discovered is not convenient. None of the things I found even had a slot to keep a pen.
I've started a regular size looseleaf nb for information I've received and will keep menus, food eaten, weight chart in there. That means I will have another thing to carry.
This is good for a start. I do not have much $ in it. If I find the DayRunner or calendar similar to Harriets, I will switch. First I must switch my purse to a tote instead, my case does not fit well in my purse. Sigh..this is learning curve for me.
I took care of my first husband, at times there was much care-giving. And back and forth to dialysis, rehab, dr. office. I don't know why that seemed simpler than this. Maybe because I only had 1 doctor. As a result of this time, I am not afraid to be a caregiver. I am not afraid of someone dying in my home. I am not terribly squeemish.
My heart goes out to both of you.