I'm hoping this is the place for this topic.
Quite a bit on my mind on this one.
I'm trying to remember when I had kids and they had card and stickers for rewards and then after so many stickers they could earn a fun reward; trying to go with that. Then I could find it and put some ideas in it as I get 'em.
Yesterday was better for us.
{I was feeling better as well that helped.}
I like the one week at a time concept.
But being at the end of the quarter now it's grade time...
I agree with whoever said they had to stay on the homework situation with their dson all through high school, our dson was that way as well; smart but would rather play outside in high school than do his schoolwork in the spring especially.
Dd & teacher are now thinking along the lines of schools that have rules if grades are not up no sports participation is the thinking of the parents. Sports should not be a right to life if grades are failing. How ever it is sad that folks had put out $ for the pic. boys & girls club membership shoes etc. then kids fail and can't play.
Teacher and dd are doing the 10 min. on and 10 min. play time as a reward for ten min of homework done; but that does not work very well here. After the first session focus is lost and it fizzles out. But only ten min of T.V. is like whine whine whine to get back to it and more time is spent getting off the ten min. play and back to the studying or assg. sheet of what ever.
The challenge seems to be getting the student to remember home work and then parents [or who ever] try to "help" getting homework assg. etc. thus bailing student from failing and trying to "fix it". So the student learns he does not have to remember home workbook, papers etc.; plus forgetting them does not have to do the work. Dgson seems to be very good at getting out of doing the work.
It seems like teacher did not care until grade time to me; but I'm coming in late to this process so I could be wrong. But it is consequence time for example if spelling is getting a F.
I've been told Dgson will be only here for a mo. so not long term at this point anyway. Time will tell. Dd helps in class room one morning a week so it there and in excellent communication with the teacher.
Trying to find what works for dgson is a challenge. At the end of the day he helps in the class room putting away chairs. This will end after this mo. to give more time to collect coats, lunch, assg. etc.
He got the reading folder in his bag and here on Fri. but without reading book in it. Ack! Frustration no reading assg. to do for that subject with out the book.
So we moved on to the next subject. Working with what dgdson brought. [His mom had called the teacher and copied spelling from their conversation but we did not have it here.]
Dgson called Thurs. I got the message make sure I do __________ assg. he got home with out ____________ subject after teacher had watched him put it in his back pack! I think this has been happening a lot from what I can see! That day we went back to the school to get it as teacher had found it and called dd and dd called me.
One day he forgets spelling the next reading math. He seems to have an excuse like they did not get it stapled together packet is not ready to come home. I had no way of knowing if it was true or not. [With our kids we just had alternate stuff work books, or some thing for that subject so they did not get out of doing it.]
[I'm seeing a lack of constancy all the way around but that just might be me or is that called life. ]
Observations:
We do better on the days dgd with the other granny,
less distraction.
Using a timer helps.
This teacher is using team work for reading it seems to help some.