OK true confessions here. I took over one of our guest bedrooms. DH got the odd habit of getting night sweats which we never figured out...but they were doozies. Like a water bed with a leak. He's always hot, I'm always cold. I made myself a single size double flannel throw but with his tossing about it always ended up on the floor. Plus he goes to bed at 8:00 or earlier, and I'm typically much later because I don't get up at 4:00 on the morning.
I most often lay there for hours before I can go to sleep and put the tv on which helps lull me to sleep. He has to sleep in an absolutely dark room with no light. I must use a little night light because if I don't I wake with night terrors, I see things about in the air, really scary and will hyperventilate and scream. If I use the night light I can view at once the things in the room and all is well.
Then he got all that pain in his hip and used the other side of the bed to prop a leg up on an extra pillow. No room for me. The last straw was when he got all sweaty one night and went to my side and I came in - no place for me!
So now I have my own space. We are, after all, talking about
sleeping and not anything else. He is so used to his own space now that when we were together in DD's queen bed together, he woke up terrified of the "body" in the bed and began to try to push me out! He was still half-asleep.
Probably 6 months ago, I gave the whole pretense up and moved my closet stuff to my room too. I would be willing to switch back if we could go to 2 beds, maybe 2 double size ones (we have the room) but I would have to get on his sleep schedule, and I just don't know about that.
You would be amazed the number of houses we are in that we see the same sort of pattern, with 2 rooms being used. Very common.
(Kathryn) I hope you 2 figure it out. The transition is not easy to make, but it's sure nice!