continued process: dh is overwhelmed - when ever I go to straightening or dejunking etc. he sees other peoples clutter and not his own.
He said that it has been depressing him - but he continues to bring more stuff in - small as it is it is still stuff.
d mom is a problem for dd younger re: cloths and stuff and magazines. I asked her - begged her not to bring anymore stuff in the house until dd younger deals with the boxes. This morning here she comes and gives dd some cloths of hers.
I so far I tossed a bag of cleaning supplies and wire hangers - I know I won't use all of them.
dh was willing to get rid of my stuff today - shelf - but not willing to get rid of our cleaning supplies. So I just tossed them. it would take years to go through what we have.
I have to process, away from the clutter, what I need to do next.
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Packed wicker baskets and bank
washed more laundry that was sitting in back room
packed dd youngers other comforter
more of dd youngers laundry washed and separated into clear boxes downstairs - I need dd younger to go through her cloths after I put everything she owns in one area. I need her to get the full effect of her stuff.
laundry went off and now for sheets or pillows
trying to think what will best help my home right now... dd's music and instruments are in the front room as well as my scanning station. Now I have enough room in my family room to do my scanning.
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cleaned the bottom of the front hall closet - dd's banjo and 2 guitars, reverb thingy is there now. the closet needs painting but that is not my goal right now. dh has been collecting umbrellas in the front hall (I know he has one in his car) so I donated one and kept 3 for now. the guitar, mandolin and ukulele on their stands are still in the front room. AS soon as dd youngers room is painted her ukulele will go back in her room.
-dogs things are now out of there and will go into the garage.
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I went through our music - packed some/tossed some/put other music books on the book shelf.
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oh my - I found more music
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I can't let us get any more music unless we let go of the old - It is stuffed into a 12"x12"x12" book area and I have a box in the basement. I tossed the recorders from elementary school
- had a little frustration at me on dh's part - he loves his newspapers/magazines and books - he doesn't hoard newspapers but he likes to keep them out for a long time especially our local magazine. I asked if he could go through them some time and dh heard now... he snipped at me saying he wanted to do it. (he did get rid of about 6 magazines) - he also got frustrated about the old church hymnal that he had in music... 1. he doesn't play music and 2. he doesn't sing - he wanted me to keep it... not him... I suggested his library if he wanted to keep it and then he decided to recycle it.
- what I am finding - others want me to keep the stuff they want and don't want to let go of it. They want me to keep things because they have ties to it but want me to find a spot for it. I am finding that my dd younger and dh are the keepers of things. Dh can't handle the stress of decluttering/probably because it makes him have to make a lot of decisions - he is good at house keeping but not good at making decisions. it stresses him out. He can see he has a hard time letting go.