Postby Kathryn-in-Canada » Tue Oct 09, 2018 8:03 pm
Long day.
The joy - getting to meet Iris. Both dfs and dfsw look good but are in 'coping' mode. They appear to be coping quite well. Iris is precious. She was sleeping and not holding her suited me fine. Staring worked just fine! I stayed at the house less than 30 minutes and set a timer to not stay in the room with Iris more than 15 minutes since I had promised a quick visit.
I went for a long 'not drowning' session at the pool with my sister after I got back and then showered and prepared for the afternoon. She spent over an hour in the water, I just spent 35 minutes.
We left and I suggested lunch next door to the funeral home but she felt I could do without lunch since I had eaten so much for breakfast so took me away from there on the guise of telling me stories about the neighbourhood and waiting for our cousin.. She was wrong. I ended up with a headache from low blood sugar and used one of my 2 emergency protein bars.
There was 2 hours between visitations and she flat out refused to let me go where I wanted to go. We ended up at a perfectly fine restaurant but I had wanted to go to my favourite fish and chip place and she didn't want to go there but she didn't want to eat alone. Her incredible selfishness on this point upsets me practically to tears. Remember, at that point, I was also extremely hungry and didn't have the strength to fight with her.
After I finished eating, I did walk out on her since she refused to accept that the water problems in my apartment are caused by leaking windows. "Windows don't leak unless the glass is broken." My head was hurting from trying to deal with the nonsense she was spouting along with the non-stop talking. So I left the restaurant and went for a walk.
The evening visitation was even busier than the afternoon visitation. The lineup was snaked through the chapel of the funeral home, across the hall and then through 3 rooms.
My cousin and his wife are along for the circus ride being put forth by the deceased's mother. Tomorrow is going to be even more of a zoo and there is no time for our lunch in there either. The funeral is 10, we have to be there for 9. There is a reception after. The interment is at 2:30. The issue is it will take 2 hours to get to the town with the grave and a very long funeral will create issues.
My cousin intends to skip the reception and I think I agree with that idea. We can then drive down the shore, stopping for a quick, quiet, lunch after we are well on the road. They offered to drive us but my sister immediately refused the offer. She ISN'T doing the driving, especially after dark on the way back. So I'm upset about that selfishness too, refusing offers to help.
We have Ontario cousins who arrived here today so are looking forward to seeing them tomorrow. That will be tomorrow's joy.
That's about it. We were back in the hotel at 8:15 and I'm out of my clothes and winding down for bed even though it is just past 9. My head is buzzing.
Ds wrote to ask something about the house (he wants to put in an offer) so I answered him. I wrote dh before visitations so I'll write him again tomorrow night, or from my phone while waiting for the service to start.