Posting before cuop because I got behind yesterday on the discussion re: time together/time apart in marriages. And I was also thinking, some of y'all were probably saying, "Well, of course Lucy doesn't feel guilty for being 'enough' for Mr. Lucy, b/c my goodness... just look at all those ballgames she goes to!" LOL... I do get tired of the ballgames
sometimes and yes, occasionally, something comes up that I want to do and I wish dh wanted to do it with me -- but like
LadyM said, for the most part, I'm fine doing my thing and he is very supportive. For instance, if I wanted to take dmom to the beach, he'd be all for it. And as
blessed said,
We have so many core values together and he makes me laugh.
DH and I love almost all movies, and we enjoy riding around in the forest near our home, or just riding around anywhere, for that matter... and although the ballgames do get tiresome for me at times, I enjoy parts of that also. I love it when we go to Atlanta, just because of the change of pace, and eating out at one of our favorites there, and we always make time to go see a movie at a sort of off-beat movie theater there. And of course, I always enjoy our trips to Nashville. We also both treasure any time we get to spend with ds and ddil, and we love going anywhere that ds is playing. And maybe most importantly, we both just live for time with the dgrands and enjoy taking them places and just having them around.
I sympathize with you,
Kathryn, however, b/c the "being in the office" thing for your dh sounds a lot like my ddad. I think ddad always felt a little jealous that ds was closer to his maternal grandparents -- but the maternal grandparents were both retired and pretty much put everything on hold the minute ds was around. My dad was totally a workaholic and busy-busy-busy. Of course, my dad was 44 and my dmom 38 when ds was born -- dinlaws were 63 and 61. We did try to alternate Sunday afternoons, for the most part, when ds got a little older, and he would eat dinner with my parents and ride around wherever ddad wanted to go -- he was a lot like
Twins' dh too -- looking at houses or cars or boats or something like that all the time.
I really regret that ddad didn't put ds to work with him when ds got in high school. Ddad said he was afraid he'd hurt his hands doing construction work, and not be able to play music -- but I suspect he just didn't have the patience to teach him, b/c ddad was very aware of and critical of dh's total lack of aptitude in that department! DS on the other hand, has a natural talent in that direction, and if he'd spent a few summers helping ddad... it would have been so nice for both of them.
Anyway, If it were not for dh, I'd probably never leave our little Tiny Town. I'm just too inclined towards agoraphobia, to be honest, and for another thing, as long as I have internet, good books, and good tv -- I'm perfectly happy sitting in the recliner with my blanket and pillow.
I might go to movies by myself if am ever widowed, but I cannot imagine myself traveling alone, and it makes me nervous to think about traveling with others. Except
maybe ds & ddil & the dgrands.
OKAY. Enough philosophizing
Today is DAY SEVEN of S2S FIRST THING. Not that I'm doing a whole lot with my day after that major ta-da, LOL, but one has to start somewhere, right?
The perfectionism + guilt topic has also been weighing heavily on my mind, and would y'all believe, my Bible reading AND a blog post by a former student both seemed to be pointing me to the same conclusion on THAT topic as well. (That perfectionism is totally impossible to achieve, and no one -- including God Himself -- expects me to BE perfect.)
PIE -- Progress Is Enough.
So after s2s, dh and I went to the post office and Wmart -- b/c he forgot milk last night, I wanted some Cajun rice, and most importantly, he wanted to see if they would tighten his eyeglass frames. (They did.)
Dgrands will be here soon for an hour or two -- ds is teaching lessons and it is spring break. DDIL called a little while ago, on her way to class after leaving the dentist.
I'm going to start laundry soon, already have it sorted -- but the washing machine causing radio interference and dh is listening to You Know Who...
and here come the babies!