I finally realized how much pressure my d mom has put on me over the years to keep things she bought herself - she sees so much importance in her purchases and her art work and crafts. (understandable and the things she had made) - she doesn't see that once it's made it goes out to the new person who can decide what do do with them. She can't understand that even if she spent money on them (lots of money) that the person who receives them may not want to keep them.
I know when I purchased our bed frame she was really disappointed that dh and I didn't want her beautiful colonial expensive bed and furniture. It was beautiful but dh and I are not super fancy people and it didn't work for us.
I will say she wants us happy and tries but has this tendency to pressure I or dd younger to keep things to make her feel better. She sees the worth in her stuff and doesn't see that it may burden us - well it burdens me but dd younger doesn't understand that she can't possibly keep boxes and boxes of things.
I have to figure out the question of what did you do with this.. I did a beautiful job on it... She thinks all her purchases should get lots of money bc they were antiques. I have to figure out how not to let dd younger get burdened with all the stuff as she tends to be a hoarder.
A new adventure