hi dear nancy and dear Harriet! again Nancy happy birthday to you! hope you had a wonderful day.
dharriet, I understand the saddness of not being able to start a project that gives you joy.
what are you working on now just for you?
I had to laugh at your dh wanting to have the chicken coop perfect as it sounds like my dh, except my wonderful dh doesn't have the skill he thinks he does sometime
. I love "don't have company in, and have no design sense at all. " dHarriet, you would really do well to write a book regarding family life etc. your humor and love of family could be a winner for a book.
also regarding schedule, I don't know right now with caring for aging family if there is a set day you can do. I haven't had that for awhile but I remember each day that was really planned out for the house or kids would change depending on what grandparents needs would come up on that day. I think you can kind of plan a weekly plan but loosely as you don't know what will happen. you may have just dailies for weeks on time especially towards the holidays. (you probably do the Christmas shopping for your dear family as well). Plus you have your dd10's activities after school so you are in that sandwhich time. When I went through this dd19 was young and I babysat for others that didn't mind me going to both grandparents houses, so it was easier that way, but I know dkids didn't like always having to drop things and go to grandma or grandma and grandpas house, and with your dd10 she is in activities and friends. ( I have to be honest, I would in the beginning feel frustrated with my one grandma especially who I really loved would call me to get one item at the store she needed that day or she was worried her mail didn't come etc. I would get to her house and it would be a little thing that could wait. But I learned she didn't mean anything by it and got used to it, and she was so loving and sweet all my life. ) When alzheimers hit her she used to think we raised children (boys - I have 2 girls) together, and I now remember her laughter and her love. You are at the hardest part right now and setting flexible goals will help. for awhile for me the most ready routine was get up and go to sleep
thank you for your kindess, my house still isn't great but I am feeling like I will get there but there is so much to do and I can't seem to really stick to just one thing to make it right, but it will happen. I have been tired and lazy and overwhelmed by my lack of focus, but I am not in my card file yet, I might just bite the bullet, pull the card file back together to get me back on track.
I am tothing today as it helps,
stove is coming today, my last 2 days were a wipe off, yesterday I don't remember as I slept all day.
so start all over again
8:45 am
9:45 check in dishes washed, dw emptied, and threw more things I found through out house
in dw and started another load, also cleaning off counters. wooo yooo am I exciting or what