well d mom was edgy and was not happy with what I had to do on the arbor. She said her blood pressure went up! and she took an extra blood pressure pill ?????? I don't think you can do that.
Actually she had forgotten again - we talked yesterday about it too- I had asked her if she had put today on her calendar. Last week she was - yes - I am ready and we planned it together. (she tends to buy way too much stuff - or have me buy way to much stuff for a project like this). I think she likes the prep rather than the actual process unless it is her own spur of the moment thought.
Today was a no go.
i did go with her to the hardware store and she wouldn't listen to me of what I already had. You could see the pressure on her and a bit of perfection thinking already going into it.
Then we went over the pastry shop to pick up ham and cheese croissants - they didn't have any but then she decided, fussily, that she was getting a eclair and eating it there!
We went to the butcher shop for ham and cheese to go with the plain croissants. She then bought meat - over-goaling. Now I know where I got it from lol perfectionism and over goal-ing!!
I finally figured out that she was stressed about doing the work at a planned time. Little jobs bother her now. She said she will come over another time but I am not going to remind her about it at all. She will forget and it will be okay. I can see she is bad on planned anything now and unless it is an impulse decision.
I can see she wishes to do stuff (just like dh) but may not be wanted to do things when the date and time come - lol gosh I know how that feels! lol
(dh does this too). she can no longer plan ahead. it's too much stress for her.
I have tickets for the tall ships tomorrow - I paid a good amount for fast passes because I knew dh couldn't handle the crowd. - I hope they both go as it cost me. I honestly don't think it is going to work. I was going to go on my own but they both wanted to go. I will go cheerfully and leave cheerfully - no expectations mean I won't get frustrated. . It might be wonderful!