did not get much done yesterday - gone most of the day and took a quick nap at 5 pm and went to bed early.
it's okay -
dd older is extremely drained - I am a bit mentally drained but she is both physically and mentally drained bc she is handling all of dh's medical orders etc. I always did it but she has done better with dh on getting him the care he needs over his not wanting things. she is overwhelmed between work and dh. I hope to get him home so that I can do my part and that she doesn't have to be the person the hospital talks to.
Main problem is that dh is spoken to and not us. he doesn't understand the danger he puts himself in.
March 20, 2025 Thursday
MOM
meds at 10 am - woke her
she rested on and off this morning - made her get up at 11 am
breakfast
at 11:00
pulled cloths last night
not getting dressed - refuses as of this moment -it's 12:15 pm and still not dressed.
she got stuck on the Hail Marie in French - she tore up my 3 x 5's with the hail Marie and wrote on my 3 x5's for her water and eye drops and started writing on and tore that up. I ended up looking it up and wrote it on paper - I will save it on a page.
12;21 PM mom it's time to get dressed - smiles at me - "yes master" what a stinker!
1:16 pm dressed.
she got her hair done
she folded one blanket.
mom is making complaints about how bad the yard looks - I told her that the criticism doesn't help.- she says it helps her. I mentioned that it if I could get out there I would and it just makes me feel bad. it's freezing and we have snow.
3:54 mom has no direction - her dementia is not letting her move forward on anything.
she is getting lost in her own head.
mom drops 1 so far
water 4cups so far - I need to get in another glass.
dinner: fed before seeing dh
DH
spoke to dh during the day - he feels better - no pain
he told me not to come yesterday and I should have gone
I am going at 4 pm.
worked on his room - I will go get him some shelves for his closet - he doesn't want help in his room but he needs it.
checked his medical supplies - he needs certain ones - told dd older.
I couldn't stay at the hospital with him - he was a piece of work - I told him I had started cleaning his room and then he was upset with me - annoyed! I told him I could see he was annoyed and wasn't thrilled with me. He wasn't thrilled from the time I went in - so I don't think it was just cleaning the room. Any time I clean in the garage he gets frustrated. He had bad throat pain but told the nurse he was fine - the nurse listened to me and gave him Tylenol - you could see it on his heart graph went bonkers- I was surprised that it didn't set off an alarm - but it didn't last for than a few seconds.
I am glad I left - He was so nice for the last 18 days - today reminded me of his up and down here this last year. - dd older said he will not coming home making life difficult for us personally. he will need to see someone. We can handle any health stuff, no problem. He needs to let his anger out bc of this - it can't be on us.
DOGS
fed
I need to open back gate
don't forget to close the back gate - coyotes are roaming again
closed the gate
HOUSE
worked on dh's stuff - on my list.
opened all boxes etc.
now we know what he needs
ME
meds am
s2s
breakfast
I need to check my blood sugar
watered the seedlings and trimmed back the green onions
- weird: my delphiniums had a bunch of green onion/or onion seeds with them. I didn't have any more seeds for green onions so this is odd - took them out.
lunch - yogurt and some of the rhubarb that I froze earlier.
dinner a quesadilla - lol I burnt it a bit but still ate it.
DAILIES
emptied dw
finished kitchen
fill dw and turn on
I didn't do dishes yesterday night
put washed laundry in dryer - mom said she could do it - she hasn't done anything and it's not good for her.
flip laundry a couple times
tossed down towels
took garbage to the front of the garage including a newly dead vacuum cleaner.
needs to be put in front - 2 broken chairs - dh kept one upstairs and I went to sit on it and the chair did the splits again -
I need to get the boxes out as well.
hung up dh's cloths
put away more cloths
drying mom's cloths - when I get home, I will hang them up.
cleaned up dinner dishes and sink
I ended up ordering mom something - I have dinner for dd and I but I just have to put it together when I get home.
got a text from dh's brother - I know that they are trying to help but it does drain me. they don't know what they want isn't doable - it will be worse for us. dh isn't going to accept anything from anyone. He is wearing his underwear (where from?) has he changed?
This is not going to be easy.
The hospital usually gives us home health after a long stay. We love the nurse from there - it is six to twelve weeks. I do have a respiratory infectious disease dr. now which is much better than his general dr. - she really doesn't understand what he needs.
I and dd think he is still sicker than he is making it sound. He was sent home so weak before and it's because he lied and said he was great. he pushed them to release him. his red blood cell count is low - I am hoping that being home makes him better.
tomorrow's hope finish h's room. go order the shelves for that closet.
I am supposed to sit there tomorrow morning - dd is taking mom to her dr. appointment.
saying a prayer for items to come in and then move forward.
raining a freezing