March 22, 2025
dh and d mom has made this morning challenging - dh took sodium water and he is not supposed to (it's intravenous) - he has sodium pills - it won't kill him - I looked - but it could have been a fatal mistake. He didn't know what it was for.
He got angry with me - if I say something he says it's nagging - he is just trying to push me away bc he wants to do things he shouldn't be doing. Playing dr. again.
He is not supposed to have anything by mouth and I found him chewing on a pill. 
He aspirates. He even had a talk from his nurse on our way out of the hospital.
I told mom her cloths were in the bathroom - she turned to me and said "what about you" I get dressed either early or after her - this morning I was planning the use the bathroom after her. She slept in her cloths last night - I fell asleep before her and she wouldn't get dressed that early (to her).
She told dh that I nag - she heard him being angry this morning - 
I am very patient with her.
dh didn't even know what he was missing meds wise - I set them up and now the rest of the meds are put away.
- I have them marked Sat to next Sunday.
I am starting my day now 11:00 am
I am ready for the nurse - she came - he said he was great
an hour and a half ago he looked terrible and was so out of it.
We mentioned that he put sodium chloride in his g tube (liquid from the hospital) she said that is an iv container.
he hasn't taken his sodium pills yet.
Thank Goodness dd was there bc she could stop the fibbing. she took care of a lot again.
mom: is now saying she wants to go down to Naples - that she can use her car.
oh my gosh -
I will let her think and think -
she thinks she has to leave here - she is mad because she was watching tv for 2 hours and I turned it off bc her brain was getting mushy.
cards pulled
Me:
meds
s2s
breakfast
fitness
mom:
meds
breakfast
s2s
fitness
she brushed her teeth without me asking her too.!!! huge.
happy and with it.
has been a challenge this afternoon and a bit this morning.
she did fold her blankets
dogs:
dh fed dogs this morning
play with them even if cold
mental exercises
brush
let them out in bigger yard
let them in and close gate to bigger yard
House:
flipped laundry
a few times
emptied dw
filled dw
cleaned counters
cleaned stove
cleaned table
put things upstairs
moved family room furniture - sweep, vacuum, rinse
fed the birds
water is still good
I had planned on making dinner but time got away from me.
all my outlets in the 3 season room have died mmm - it's okay bc it will be replaced. vacuumed part of the 3 season room.
call pulmonologist to see if he still needs a nebulizer and meds. on Monday make appointment
make g tube appointment
he has a dr. appointment on Monday.
dd older and I have had a long talk - we both have been feeling that we arent' having losses but aren't having wins either - that's hard to see for someone so young. Just when we get going something else happens - we both have been trying to be accommodating and positive but are struggling. We both have been using laughter to help us get through things - like we can't believe it and laugh at it because there is nothing else we can do. 2025 has been hard - 2023 the beginning when dh was hard in the first part of the year.
We have been through it before - it will pass - it's so much harder for dh. He also has made it very hard on himself by doing things that cause him to be very sick and almost die again. This morning, he looked bad, we even thought of having a nurse every day - if he does what he did this morning and before.
we realized that his lack of self care and playing dr. has made him so sick that it is very hard on us. His stubborn behavior is difficult.
the good - tonight he used the meds that I set up for him - no complaints and asked what he should use to clean his g tube area. we did tell him that he will be getting a nurse if he doesn't listen to the drs instruction - maybe he heard us.
its a new day tomorrow
