Fall 2024 cardfile/focus weeks

[blessedw2]

Tuesday November 12

errands: get white flour, the white wine for coq au vin.
pick up mom's meds some are on back order
register for silver sneakers
quilt shop spent too much money
call on mammogram
bone density and new dr.
Polish shop for sausage for lentil dish.

my day was filled with activity, finished my appliqué for dd and gave it to her. (I wanted to embroider I love you to the moon and back on it but embroidered "I love you" instead.

mom said she had a lovely day! very happy!

[blessedw2]

November 14, 2024
I need to defrost Chicken for Fridays' cooking

I need to make appointments bone density
for mom as well.

setting alarm
waiting for dd to bring dh home
I would go to mom's but her d dog is here while she is out with dh

this will be a good test to see if she eats if I don't tell her to.

card file box - pulled.

we need to work on mom's Christmas present.

sealed bags of new flour
filled dw and turned on
broke up boxes

[blessedw2]

it's amazing how fast the day goes by.
November 15, 2024
Friday!

dishes are washing themselves
next clean the sink
dd younger made a focaccia yesterday and that stuff is sticky - she did the bowls and the starter container but other other things were still there.
she smiled at me and said - "I made all that bread for us!" but it wasn't a way to have me do the work but her creativity can come with a lot of dishes she needs to do.

[blessedw2]

Yesterday sweet dh ended up in the ER hospital. Dh and I got home at around 8/8:30/9 pm
he can breathe again.

just starting 10:50 am
had a headache this morning but I feel better.

breakfast check
TODAY MAKE LIST OF WHO WILL B GOING TO MOM'S - HAVING FOOD MARKED AND SEE IF SHE ACTUALLY EATS IT.

dh came home (with dd older) and my keys to moms - I drove over and gave her meds to her as well as lunch. Her house is very clean - she still has clean laundry on table but her kitchen was spotless

first things first:
trash contine
put away
animals

round robin work

Mom: am meds given

cooking split into 2 days

ask for ideas again FOR THE HOLIDAYS

cleaned bird feeders, filled, cleaned bird bath and refilled. filled food safe containers with more bird seed
filled mom's and my meds - I still need to give the cat her shot.
made new calendar and set up times for me with mom's meds - which is most of the time - and dd younger 3 evenings a week, dd older maybe 2 times on the weekend.
ordered dinner for mom - should get there in 1/2 an hour
she thought I was picking her up - she insisted on being home so it is what it is.
checking lights

[blessedw2]

it's Sunday November 17, 20204 lovely!
I have decided to stay away from dh re his self care.I can't do it.
dd older is picking up d mom. She can get her to go.

Setting my brain on what I can do today and what I can't re: family.

what will help me:
do not focus on dh's care - I will watch and see if he cares for himself. I will gently remind him if he doesn't do self care then I will walk away. I have come to the conclusion that I need to protect my health.

Mom doesn't realize that she needs help. She forgets and I can easily go back to square one with her. Nurse will be interesting and I think it needs to be done at least 3 times a week.

dd younger is worrying me - she is going down the dog route again and it may not be a good thing. she still doesn't understand dangers = at least with Florida her friends are doctors, nurses and professionals. hard working good people that like her and watch out for her.
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okay Sunday - resetting my brain on calm happy day.
what will make it happy - fire place put wood in there for later.
clean the bay windows for lights later
make soup
garland found in crawl space
take gaudy ribbon off the one garland

emptied dw and refilled it with the little bit there was - washing now
dh... put his dirty cheese dishes in the sink from breakfast and lunch - why couldn't he scrub and rinse it
I am getting to a point of wanting a sign up that says wash your dishes and put them away.
counters clean
sink clean
ordered lunch for mom
dh ate and did his dishes this time.
mom wants to go home - I have things to do - she doesn't want to do anything - dd older asked if she wanted to help her cook - nope. hopefully mom will change her mind. - I would have to order her dinner and get her then med she needs at 8 pm. I am getting drained.
I have to remember that I am trying. I am doing the best I can.

mom is still sitting and sitting and sitting - her staying home is not good.
she is off today.
dd older took her home and gave meds to her.

she told me that it was my own fault for having to come to her house for meds and food bc she can do it.

[blessedw2]

November 18, 2024
Monday

phone calls mammogram
bone density
walk program - woods start small
continue lights for Christmas
cooking

1. order food for mom - ordered. - bring to her and bring her her meds thinking 20 minutes from now.
2. s2s
3. emptied dw
4. I washed dishes again in dw.
5.: 3:59 go empty dw again.

[blessedw2]

happy November 19, 2024 Tuesday

I was busy until night.

[blessedw2]

November 20, 2024

put on list for thanksgiving: carrots, bacon, parsley, I have red onion
swiss melody veggie ingredients - look it up
green bean casserole ingredients - I don't care for it so I will also make regular green beans. everything on Thanksgiving is so heavy.

I am up late, late to start the day, messy messy house, there you go!

There is sun!!!

I would like a little quiet time in the house but dh is doing dishes and he doesn't have to.

Alrighty
check the chicken and meat - one meat I had to toss. not happy about that. it's not respecting the animal it came from.
I have decided to use up the mushrooms for my soup.
chicken orzo is cooling - put away for tonight - I will make garlic bread, I think, for sure a veg.
dishes are washing themselves. time to put away
I want to finish the floor - I have the cleaning ladies tomorrow but it's not their job to clean up after me cooking.
took tylonel

I worked the whole day - not much to look at but I did it.

[blessedw2]

November 21, 2024
Let it snow let it snow let it snow - we have an all day snow.

When winter comes I think I should sell my house
I shall see as summer comes again.
having 2 large dogs that need space changes what we can do.

10:24 wow

I am trying to make the home warm and inviting for my family and for me. goal for Christmas is coziness. (it lifts my spirit).

Alrighty I know I need dinner for my family
lunch for my family
make mom comfortable.
whites washing themselves
dh did dishes and I finished
it was another busy day
mom helped w Christmas decorations - helped w dinner -
hard working day

[blessedw2]

November 22, 2024
Friday.
I think my dishes exploded all over the kitchen - I go to bed knowing I didn't do the after dinner dishes and think it looks okay to thinking: what in the world happened here!!!

dd Is taking care of moms meds. dh - I will insist on seeing his trac.- I haven't seen it in a couple days as he wouldn't let me but I can hear some congestion. Sometimes I feel like a jerk doing this.

here I go!
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A little bit of a struggle bus here. I am listening to Arne & Carlos

dh isn't thrilled about dd's dog barking - understandably so, I have to look at the window with the dog(s) and he looks at my reaction - I tell him it's okay - he wags his tail and follows me back to where I am working. poor dh does not like sound. I on the other hand love the life in the house.
I put the chair across the front room, where dh is sitting right now, so the dogs can't look out the windows. dh then moved the chair and got upset that the dogs came in. I move the chair back.

dh no longer knows that he doesn't close gates after he goes through. yesterday dd younger put the gate across the stairs so she could take a shower without dogs. dh went through the gate upstairs and left it open where then all three dogs ran upstairs and pushed the bathroom door open and happily found dd showering! I could hear dd saying "guys! to the dogs. dd and I thought it was a funny story but dh said I should have told him why there was a gate across the stairs so he would have closed it. He didn't find the story funny.

I am beginning to see a correlation to some of dh's reactions and d mom's. Ver(y similar. They both assume people are criticizing that they do things.(or that they forget). I can see dh focusing inward again and stewing. I do wish he was
one who could tell me how he feels or what I can do to make things better. He is a holder in person until he gets upset or I can open him up.

hoping after dh takes a nap that he feels better. - he woke up and smiled. yay
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dishes from last night are in the dw washing themselves done and put away
counters, sink, stove nice and clean
swept the kitchen floor
flip flop laundry x. 2
cleaned the inside of the couch
put everything back
got the med e lert auto oil dispenser praying I figure it out. I did for the most part
dinner soup was too spicy for me and mom but dd older loved it. it's her recipe
cleaned up kitchen after

next find ladder to put up more garlands and lights.