**** Big Sigh of Relief ****
I am finally at the end of that busy week. Note to self....don't have 7 medical appointments and multiple family drama happening in the same week.
>>>skippable<<<<
Lunch with DGS29, pregnant SO and 3 kids (9 years extreme autistic boy, 5 year old girl, 1 year old girl) was informative. My goal was to let DGS29 take the lead with talking and it worked well. He talked for an hour and I got a good understanding of his thought process. Basically he is a victim. His 3 kids that don't live with him all have controlling mean Moms that are all evil because they won't let him have a relationship with those kids. All of his 8 brother, biological Mom, biological Dad, adoptive mom and dad are worthless in his opinion so he has cut them out of his life. DGS29 & SO lived in Ronald McDonald home for 4 months when the last baby was born early and he said it was horrible. He complained about rules, the food wasn't good, etc...never mind that it was all free. After that they lived off grid in a trailer (without permission of owner) but were eventually found and kicked out. DGS29 couldn't believe that anyone would be so mean as to kick them out when they had a baby. The parents of his SO let them move into home with them but they expected DGS29 to help around the house (take out trash, mow yard, etc) and called him names (bum, freeloader, etc) when he wouldn't work. The SO parents wanted them to leave their home but they wouldn't because they didn't have a place to go. So last month the SO parents bought a trailer for DGS29, SO and kids to live in and moved it to a RV park. DGS29 gave great detail how lousy of a place it is with things breaking and the SO parents refuse to do the repairs. DHS (child services) has been called on DGS29 3 times in the last 4 months for child abuse of the 3 children living in their home. DGS29 and SO have buried 2 children in the past 5 years. I don't know the circumstances of the deaths. And on....and on... and on. My head was about to explode just listening to it. If these are the things that DGS29 tells I can't help but wonder what he isn't telling.
DGS29 is firmly convinced the world is again him and he is an innocent victim of everything that happens. I don't see any way I can help him. He isn't interested in changing. I don't expect DGS29 to be around here for long. He is a rolling stone always moving. They told how they will be moving to Sweden because it is so much better living there. O.K.A.Y.
I am glad that I got to reconnect with DGS29. He has been a big painful unknown hole in my heart for many years. I wondered how he was doing....if he was still alive.....etc. I might feel different after I process this experience but for now......I am at peace with not knowing more.
history in the making news
I am fascinated by comparing the various news sources. DH watches mainstream news stations (CNN, MSNBC, FOX, ABC, NBC) Meanwhile I watch/read online personal videos and stories shared - X, rumble, reddit. WHAT A COMPLTELY DIFFERENCE!! I wonder which version the history books will show.