SHEs Organized

yay d Nancy!

I have two suggestions for Lucylee - my strategy for getting myself moving.
1 tell yourself you only have to work on this stuff for 45 minutes and set a timer. Or tell yourself you'll do 15 minutes and stop. Knowing that you're limited sometimes break the initial sluggishness.
2 also, figure out what the first step is of the things that need to be done. (If I want to write the HOA check to the kids who cleans the cabana and takes out the garbage every week, I need to get in touch with him to verify what weeks he's worked. Long story - he ran out of the check off sheets and hasn't been paid since week of 5 July. But his emails, photos of the time sheets, come from an iCloud email that apparently he doesn't monitor? So I'm trying to get through to his mother next...) Repotting plants - first step is finding/buying a pot for larger plant to go into...and making sure we have potting soil.
2a or alternatively try to figure out why you don't want to do it - what is "blocking you" from getting busy. Discomfort with the task? Something else needing to be done? indecision?

Anyway, I'm coming back through. The oil change and tire rotation did not take long. I went on to the mall area and walked through JJill and went to department store for a new foundation. Also went to Lowes for a new hand trimmer for cutting hydrangeas, and got myself lunch out. Of course, when I walked in I found the the hand trimmer that had been misplaced.

DH went to Costco this afternoon.

I put sheets into the dryer and am going to nap while they dry.

Back from my class and library run.

Blessed… my first thought is your husband is fearful of loosing control in his life and is acting out. One’s own fear, whether real or imagined, can cause this type of behavior. Seen it with the “kids” that I have worked with. My sons father was very controlling and would tell me in his quiet times he was afraid people would see him as weak. Never made sense to me at the time as he was CEO and president of a large national company and obviously been every successful in his career. However more fearful he became, the more controlling he was.

Sweetie to had been in the same situation, though not controlling, and has talked quite candidly about how men experience fear. I think of fear as being afraid of heights or bears or snakes, but he speaks of fear as of being a man and what the expectations come with that and not being able to meet them, or how other people perceive their success.

Lucylee… give yourself some grace. You are mourning through a very difficult time and as others have said there is no timetable for grief. I have two friends who are in the same situation …one lost her husband 1.5 years ago and still can’t go to sleep till 3:00 am. She cries at the drop of a hat and is so lonely that she decided to sell her how here and move to a town in Tx which she hates just so she can live with her daughter. My other friend lost his partner 2 years ago and never told him how sick she was and died very unexpectedly. He manages to still work but has no family, and is stuck in the cycle of being mad at her for not telling him about her illness and feeling guilty because he loves her.

Why not pick one thing on your list and see if you can do it within a week. Once done find another one you want to do. Don’t whelm yourself, just do a little at a time.

I have laundry from yesterday to fold and put away. Yesterday I worked with Sweetie to get our lania in order. I had to get in and out of the pool several times to stay cool. We got everything done but replacing the two fans. The new ones arrive tomorrow so y’all know what I’ll be doing.

Thinking of LadyM today. I recently have had my share of dental work with more to be done down the road.

I am home and comfortable. ***Big Sigh of Relief**** to have this surgery over with. He did the worst side (right side upper and lower). In two weeks, he will do surgery on the left side upper & lower and then I WILL BE DONE. The surgery took about 1.5 hours and wasn't painful since he had everything numbed. I wish I had taken headphones to help me pass the time and block out the noise of what he was doing. I spent most of the 1.5 hours counting to 100 and then back to zero...repeat...repeat. I tried to develop a menu plan or do something mentally productive, but it was too stressful for me to keep focus on a long-term mental project. I did not know what to do with my thoughts. Note to self.... If that is the worst thing that I can say about the surgery experience, then it wasn't bad at all.
Things I might want to know in the future...
** There are 9 stitches on right side of mouth that will dissolve.
** Take Hydrocodone every 4 hours. Ibroprofen every 6 hours.
** Do frequent saltwater rinses today and tomorrow.
** Tomorrow night I start using prescription mouth wash 4 times a day. The pharmacist said it has peroxide in it so expect it to fizz.
** nothing but liquid and very soft food (pudding, applesauce, etc) for 3 days.
** No hard food for 2 weeks.
** Don't brush teeth on right side for at least a week.
** Restrict activities for 3 days.

The bathtub and shower are installed. There are some additional things to be done before this project can be declared finished, but it is ready to be used. It is soooooo nice to see the open space in the garage again instead of it being a storage area for this project.

The septic tank repairs are done. Something to do with an air flow gauge.

I am feeling accomplished and thankful.
The bathtub project has been ongoing for over 2 months.
The periodontal surgery decision has been weighing on my mind for 6 months.
Do I feel so good because these are done............or maybe because I am taking some really good pain meds.

Glad to see every one's progress!

I have done minimal things but bits of progress is good. Focused on 2-3 min. tasks.
Like add oil to mower.
Dust under & top of fridge.
Declutter deck of small planters I am changing out & put em in the potting shed.
It's nice to have a place for em.
Spiffed some on the counters.
Put away towels.
filled bird bath & watered in front the other side of front yard.

Pick up after doggo.
Put pc accent on think contact paper they call it skin. Pink leopard print rose gold not metallic but looks
new any way and under $20 way cheaper than a new PC lol! I'm happy. I could not find a new one that was pink
so I went this route.
Went back to that yd. sale and got side tables to paint this winter.
Played with the fabrics I got tucked one around a pillow so it looks like I've decorated for Fall!
Decide on lunch X dinner is thawing.
Work on kit. dinning room zone. some.
Dumped trash.

Journaling finally done.
Friday puttering has paid off for me I've reclaimed the table a few things at a time yea! So worth it.
Glad I've been home this afternoon. It's been a bit breezy so ddoggo has been inside with me today too.
I dug out two small trees from nuts squirrels buried, and a holly hock that came up in the yard.
I moved the holly hock trees not saving. I was surprised at the quickness of those tasks.
Watered in the back too.

Just went around the block and the loop with the rigs did not really go anywhere today.
I wanted to but did not glad now as I was able to get way more done than I had anticipated.
Started a bit of knitting too.

Not much cooking just an egg for breakfast as I had other food I'd made ahead here on hand.

Well hello hello d mystery so lovely to see you!!!
have so much fun at trivia night!
yay that you don't have to do anything on payroll
I am so sorry about your sweet mom!!!
Thinking of you and all!

hello d twins waving to you as you work through your day!

d rose -I hope you have a lovely day!!!
you might be right

d Nancy hellooooo I love to follow your work - you give me inspiration!


dd has to be back to Florida in November for a conference - They are watching Hurricane season - so far everything (knock on wood), looks great. The big one, for my mom's area, came on September 28th 2022. Actually it is better that mom stays here for Christmas and Thanksgiving; this way my brother doesn't have to go down there.

I would love if mom lived here as everything would be so much easier for me - but she does like her apartment. She doesn't really eat or drink water when she is alone all day and then she gets dehydrated and a wee bit off. I am trying to get her out of the house at least 5 hours a day.

oh well I am getting lost in thought.

just oiled my iron skillet and it is seasoning itself as I type.
dw is on
time to flip flop laundry
sweep kitchen
dd younger took mom to lands end
they bought me a top and a fall zip up type jacket. how nice
mom and dd bought matching sweaters for the holidays. dd older didn't want one. sweaters are too hot for me but it's cute that mom and dd younger wanted to wear the same thing.

fixed d mom's rosary - unfortunately she is missing 4 beads. I don't know what happened.


song keeps going through my head:

Rollin', rollin', rollin'
Rollin', rollin', rollin'
Rollin', rollin', rollin'
Rollin', rollin', rollin'
Rawhide
Keep rollin', rollin', rollin'
Though the streams are swollen
Keep them doggies rollin'
Rawhide

It feels like a 'lost' day but wasn't if I list what I did:

Dgs slept through until 7 and then cuddled with us in bed until 7:45. I thought he had slept through the night, but in fact I hadn't heard him when he called for me and he accepted dh getting him another bottle.

I did dgs' laundry (all sheets, mattress pad, pjs and clothes from yesterday that came home wet plus a polar bear stuffy I got from the stuff swap yesterday.)

I fed dgs breakfast and remembered to eat myself.

I took dgs home by 11. He was pretty good on the drive, we listened to the soundtrack from Despicable Me, along with some other upbeat songs. While at his house, I found the missing toy he had inadvertently taken from dd's so put that in the car. (She gave it to him to play with in the car a few months ago and when dh took him home later he took the toy inside, whereas I was supposed to return it.)

I dropped off all the leftovers from the Stuff Swap at the thrift store and went to get dh's cash for the trip but had forgotten my bank card for that bank. So I went home and ate a second breakfast.

I did another load of laundry and got it hung up.

I put away all the toys. I still have dgs's bed to remake but that and putting the bath toys away are the last things to do to erasing his footprints here (not literal footprints, those will be erased when I do a houseblessing on Monday!)

I did the second business task I had to do (I got the first done yesterday while dgs was at daycare) and then took dh to the bank to handle part of that plus pick up his US$ cash for the trip. It must be $50 bills and all new or the money changers in Africa won't take them.

I set up the sewing machine to do a project for dh hemming his pants but I couldn't get the tension right so the sewing was a mess. I knew what was wrong but not how to fix it without sewing test strips with that material and we didn't have any of that material to play with. Dh ended up sewing them by hand and he's solution to the too-long inseam worked well (these are zip off pants so he shortened them at the zippered connection end instead of the cuff and there's a flap that comes down over where the zipper is so it is invisible.)

I made myself a supper and we watched some Youtube together.

I also finished listening to an audio book and spent 3 hours this evening watching more Youtube.

The bridge closed tonight at 10 for overnight paving which is a surprise not just to us but all the cars below us and there are a lot of horns as a result. Hope that settles down soon.

Off to bed. I'm actually rather tired so should sleep well.

I feel so much better after reading all your comments and suggestions, and I am definitely going to put some of this in action.
After the rush is over and I have my nervous breakdown that no one is going to deprive me of... (I'm kidding!!!)
I honestly feel pretty good as far as I am not feeling particularly depressed or anything, I'm just frustrated with myself a lot of the time.
Now, don't take that to mean I'm "over" the grief part. I miss dh terribly; I still feel kinda angry and have the thoughts about how unfair it is, and if I sit around and take time to think about my situation, I can end up crying at most any point of the day -- but as y'all can see, the past few days there hasn't been much time to think about anything. And I am grateful for that.
Today, one of my cousins came by and visited for a couple hours or more. It was nice to see her; she has a more-than-full life with adult son/DDIL/two grands and an extremely busy husband who is self-employed. She is about to retire from her job in a week or so, and she just said she had been thinking of me and just wanted to let me know and take time to check in on me. She is not one of the cousins I think "neglect" me -- those are on my dad's side. This cousin is on my mom's side; our grandmothers were sisters. We're only a year apart in age and we've been close all our lives.

ANYWAY --
Harriet's comment was one of my favorites:

lucylee, if I had a parade, a ball game and two funerals to attend over the weekend and still thought I needed to make it to a church service as well, I would be downright sad about it all.

Actually -- it was TWO parades!!! Last night was the high school homecoming parade; today was the elementary school "Constitution Day Parade." Grades Pre-K through 4th circled the blocks around the school shouting "USA" and wearing paper plate Uncle Sam masks and hats. * However, a group of little boys were chanting, "I hate this! I hate this!" (It was pretty hot at 12:45 this afternoon.)
OH -- and you left out the community pep rally last night, where we sat on the concrete bleachers and watched groups of cheerleaders from mini-midgets to varsity, plus the dance team, do their little routines, and the homecoming court was announced, along with the grand marshal.
That WAS special -- the secretary at the school and cheerleader sponsor has given up cheerleaders after 31 years. She has been battling throat cancer and has had a hard time, while still working as much as possible. The class sponsor and one of her former cheerleaders introduced her and told a little about her contributions to the cheerleaders and the school as a whole, and there were tears. I was so glad to see that she was chosen. They asked all the girls who had cheered for her to sit on the track and there were lots of pictures, probably at least 30 of those girls/now young ladies were able to be there.

DGD and I went to the game tonight with DS and DGS, who were on the field. DDIL has worked 6 nights this past week and after Constitution Parade, she was DONE.
We lost by 3 points, so it was kinda a heartbreaker of a game.

Then DS took DGS to the middle school DANCE (we're all amazed he wanted to go) and DGS proclaimed that he was not going to actually dance; he didn't like to dance... and DS and I gave him strict instructions that was fine, but if a girl asked him to dance, he must not hurt her feelings, he must make an effort to dance with her. DS said, "It's not likely it will happen, but if it does, you better give it a try."

In 6.5 hours I have to be at ds' house to go to the funeral. I guess I should turn in.

I'm trying to cuop on posts, but I think I'll do better when this weekend is over. Much love to ALL of you -- have a great Saturday!