However, if something is not said by the end of the month, I will get my mom on this w/daunts and cousins, I guess. We could at least have a sort of "family" thing.
* sheesh * It always multiplies. Can't have MY family w/out dh's family, of course, and then we pretty well HAVE TO have it at church, for space considerations. And then, we HAVE to invite church ladies... oh my goodness... nothing is ever SMALL.
Let's see...
My family: 9 women, plus maybe 3 friends that would be hurt if they were not included, plus the 1 who made the offer to help
DH's family: 5 women? Not as many as I thought. DH's family has sorta shrunk and scattered over the years, I guess. I'm still thinking about 4th of July gatherings w/dmil's 6 siblings and their families in attendance.
Ddil's friends: ???
So -- that's less than 20 people. Plus ddil and me, and whomever she wants to invite.
That doesn't even seem worth bothering with, does it? On the other hand, it is VERY manageable at dcousin's house... IF she would just make the offer!!!
This is sad.
The one who made the offer probably wouldn't be offended if we just did a family shower -- you know, if I told her no one else at church has mentioned it, and we just thought we'd do something small w/our family. Ddil still sorta feels like a stranger to a lot of our church people. There's not many people their age at church, and they don't go to Sunday School, and she won't go to church if ds is out of town, so... there you are. Now the group dh & ds will be singing with on 5th Sunday... their wives would add 3 or 4 more... and the friend who offered to help is one of those wives. And the engagement party is for one of their daughters.
Oh my goodness... I'll work myself into a tizzy if the church ladies DO make the offer. And ddil is very uncomfortable with all these large groups of people she doesn't know, also, especially without ds there with her.
Small, family gathering would be best, probably.
I will give it till April 30. Maybe a solution will present itself.
I hope no one at church or in my family is lurking as one of our "guests"!!! I am not concerned about GIFTS... it's just that I don't want ddil to feel "ignored." * sigh * I would hate for someone I know IRL to read all this and realize how crazy I am... worried about not having a shower, worried about having too big a shower... * sigh * I need a lobotomy.