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OKay))) (((BIG HUGS))) That is so tough... trying to stretch yourself so thin... could the older dgc come spend the weekend with y'all once a month maybe? It's several hours' drive time away, right? That just makes everything so much more complicated. Believe me, I know how it is to try to stretch between dinlaws and my own parents, who were never more than 10 miles apart!
Hmmm... have to say... wondering how this new "normal" is going to be for us... for the first time in 9 years, I think, dh is not going to be going to "check on" his dparents every afternoon...
Do I have to start filling that time by checking on MY dmom?
I hope not... I swear... the clutter on that kitchen table and in her adjoining office room just drives me absolutely beyond insane... and when I go out there mid-afternoon and she's still in her pajamas...
* sheesh *
I am thinking though... maybe once a week, or every other week -- maybe on the day her housekeeper comes, when she will already be in work-mode? Maybe I could put it in my routine to go offer my services to help her dig out and organize the paperwork then?
* sigh *
Of course, I am pretty sure there will be a LOT of time spent helping clean out dmil's house and * hopefully * helping ds/ddil move, maybe by the first of the year? No one knows what the future holds, but at least dbil's first reaction was not, "Well, that will never work..." to this sort of division of property. So we're hopeful that things will be a bit calmer than we feared.
Tonight, dh started organizing the baby room a bit more, so I finished up and by putting the changing table and bed in an L-shape instead of the way they were, I have opened up a HUGE amount of floor space for dgs to play. I hope dh approves -- it blocks access to ds's (vinyl) record collection a bit more, but ds said that was fine. For all practical purposes, these records could be locked up in off-site storage; he rarely looks at them.
OH MY... I JUST REALIZED... if ds/ddil move to larger house, I will have sooo much more space in MY house!!! WOW! What a happy thought!
Y'all, I don't know -- I feel bad talking about this, even... and I hope y'all don't think we're a bunch of vultures swooping in on dmil's property. DS was perfectly well prepared to stay in his little crackerbox of a house for years and years to come... but the land dmil's house sits on has been in dh's family for probably 150 years, and dh just can't bear the thought of it being sold outside of the family. His grandfather's house used to be just down the road, but it burned a few years ago, so this is the only thing they own on that original land. We are not in any hurry at all... but we were really afraid dbil WAS going to be in a hurry to start selling things... * and we certain wanted to nip that in the bud! * -- and when dbil brought up the subject yesterday of how to handle some of the rental property... dh thought he'd let him know how he felt about the other... and we were just sooo pleasantly surprised that dbil seemed to think that might be a possible solution.
And ds, true to form, asked dh later, "Am I cheating YOU out of something if you let me have that house out of your half of your inheritance?"
DH said, "Don't you even think about that.
I don't need a house, and I don't want half the money that it's worth... I'm going to be FINE."
DH sooo much wants dgs to grow up in that house where he grew up and where ds has sooo many memories.
I've still got to clean bathroom -- not the one adjoining guest bedroom, but the main "public" bathroom... and then, I think I'm out. The house probably needs dusting and vacuuming all over, but dcousin will arrive at 12:30 -- he just called apologizing for keeping us up so late...

LOL...
and tomorrow morning, we'll probably get up in time to eat a bowl of cereal and head to the church. So I'm not going to worry about the house.