Re: Snow! Snow! Snow! Friday PWYC
Posted: Fri Jan 10, 2025 5:32 pm
enjoy your run d helia!
yay on your done work! ta da DONE!
mom is better - her spirit is good again, but has not changed into new cloths
dd older hasn't been here so she hadn't seen the improvement from the time she left until she came back and she saw mom today at her worst.She was great yesterday - best that I have seen in years. She said she would be better off in Florida - that she is more independent -
I saw what she was like when she first came back - she didn't eat/drink on her own - meds -dd took very good care of her. but she is a young person who needs a future. there was no way she can take her meds without messing it up - dd had to hide her meds so she didn't take too many or not at all. Not at all is common with mom - she thinks she has had them when she hasn't. she can't tell you what the day is or year. in Florida mom also washed and rewashed the same laundry over and over - as well as empty out cabinets, tossing things that belonged to dd's dog and separating things into different containers over and over again.
I am surprised dd's can't see that as a problem.
- I won't let dd younger be her "care helper" any more even though they all wanted it.. she is young and needs to continue a career, health and younger person stuff. it's better now than in the future.
- Sunday night we go back to having the care taker at night and maybe see how she does at night on her own. I don't want to do that but I am getting pressure to try. I will be on the camera all night - mom will still have to come here during the day so that she eats, drinks and socializes. It will be hard on me to do the am pick up and night time drop off but if mom does well with it then I will be okay with it. It will be at her house again.
the only way mom could go back to Florida is with a caregiver most of the day. she can be on her own a few hours at a time - most times.
I have cared for my mom's parents (her dad started with Alzheimer s late 89 and then his early 90's. my dads mom - I cared for her daily for two years at her house but she ate and drank - I can see my mom going through some of the same issues that I saw previously in my dear family members. My great aunt had it as well but I wasn't her caretaker but I remember her on my visits. dh's great aunt got it as well but she was in her 90's.
dh doesn't want mom here -he wants pure quiet. I helped take care of his mom with his sisters for years. I was so happy to do it. back then, I said his mom could live here as well but with all of us it was good that we split it up.
I honestly don't know what to do. I don't think I am making it up in my mind. my heart says no Florida- dd's say I am hurting mom by not sending her to Florida. they want me to keep an open mind.
yay on your done work! ta da DONE!
mom is better - her spirit is good again, but has not changed into new cloths
dd older hasn't been here so she hadn't seen the improvement from the time she left until she came back and she saw mom today at her worst.She was great yesterday - best that I have seen in years. She said she would be better off in Florida - that she is more independent -
I saw what she was like when she first came back - she didn't eat/drink on her own - meds -dd took very good care of her. but she is a young person who needs a future. there was no way she can take her meds without messing it up - dd had to hide her meds so she didn't take too many or not at all. Not at all is common with mom - she thinks she has had them when she hasn't. she can't tell you what the day is or year. in Florida mom also washed and rewashed the same laundry over and over - as well as empty out cabinets, tossing things that belonged to dd's dog and separating things into different containers over and over again.
I am surprised dd's can't see that as a problem.
- I won't let dd younger be her "care helper" any more even though they all wanted it.. she is young and needs to continue a career, health and younger person stuff. it's better now than in the future.
- Sunday night we go back to having the care taker at night and maybe see how she does at night on her own. I don't want to do that but I am getting pressure to try. I will be on the camera all night - mom will still have to come here during the day so that she eats, drinks and socializes. It will be hard on me to do the am pick up and night time drop off but if mom does well with it then I will be okay with it. It will be at her house again.
the only way mom could go back to Florida is with a caregiver most of the day. she can be on her own a few hours at a time - most times.
I have cared for my mom's parents (her dad started with Alzheimer s late 89 and then his early 90's. my dads mom - I cared for her daily for two years at her house but she ate and drank - I can see my mom going through some of the same issues that I saw previously in my dear family members. My great aunt had it as well but I wasn't her caretaker but I remember her on my visits. dh's great aunt got it as well but she was in her 90's.
dh doesn't want mom here -he wants pure quiet. I helped take care of his mom with his sisters for years. I was so happy to do it. back then, I said his mom could live here as well but with all of us it was good that we split it up.
I honestly don't know what to do. I don't think I am making it up in my mind. my heart says no Florida- dd's say I am hurting mom by not sending her to Florida. they want me to keep an open mind.
