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Whatever yesterday was; today is a new day! Breathe! I thought this would be a good way to start today!

I hope your day is a good one!!!

"1. Be gentle with yourself
Try cutting yourself some slack and accept that this is how it is right now. You’re worthy of your own kindness, so be tender with yourself.

2. Take things off your plate:
Your priority is to carve out time for self-care right now, so do what you can to clear your schedule and avoid any potentially stressful situations. If canceling plans makes you feel guilty, remind yourself that you can’t help others unless you put your health and well-being first.

3. Feel your feelings

4. Allow yourself to rest
Everything feels harder when we’re tired. So give yourself permission to get the rest you need, and notice how it positively impacts your perspective and capacity to cope.

5. Honor your needs
Check in with yourself. What do you actually need right now?

6. Find positive and gentle distractions

7. Lean on your support network
The simple act of sharing our experience can make us feel lighter

8. Breathe…
When we’re in the middle of a storm it can be hard to remember that it’s temporary.

9. Take note (literally)"* we know how good that is. use your journal, paper, card file - I loved pam and Peggy's suggestion to write down a problem on a 3 x 5 and file it ahead-look at it 6 months later. I find that what I felt so strongly at the moment - most of the time has been eased or forgotten.

*from calm.

What do you need today?

My thoughts: what good can I do today? how will I look for the beauty and good in our day?

dd older took care of mom yesterday - today is my day - tomorrow it is generally both of us.

Good morning

Blessed - thank you for the start and excellent reminders this morning. I needed those.

I need to be vigilant in following my cards. They are good reminders but maybe more important than that is they keep me from slipping into low spirits. Being a caregiver 24/7/365 is not easy. Raising teenagers is not easy. Sometimes I get into my poor-me feelings and nothing good comes from that. Putting in some extra focus into taking care of me physically, mentally and emotionally is worth the effort

Hi!

Has anyone here heard or read about "Habit stacking"? I think we all do it on here to some extent. Morning routines, evening routines, etc. I was scrolling through my phone last night and came across it, so I got out of bed and googled it.

I've been reading the first Harry Potter book again. Now I see it from such a different perspective. The author stated that making up the names for people and places was hard, so I paid attention to some of introductions to characters and place names. Some are rather humourous. I might have to get lost in some books as the next few months progress. FB and other information sources are just too full of ridiculousness.

Thanks for the reminder blessed. So true. I think I need some of those thoughts atm. But then I think I'm most of the time in a better spot these days and need to actually make myself finish some projects and be more involved. Fine line that balance is .

I really should look more into your card system. I've said that before. Where do you find what to put on the cards? I think you have notes on it somewhere that I have read before. My house was such a disaster when the kids were little. And then I found the flylady routines and zones etc. I did really well for several years. Till things unraveled one routine at a time. Then we severely decluttered and built the rest of the house. It was clean a new for quite a while and didn't need the details as much. Not so much 12 years later.

It's completely reorganized since dd and dsil brought some extra family when they visited and I got dad's big sectional couch. Everything matches now I just need to get better at finishing cleaning and kitchen. And details.. and well I still need some better art or decor. Projects waiting. Declutter. I keep thinking I'm gonna be productive on a day off and then I don't get far.

And it's garden produce season. We had coleslaw and I cooked up 1 big beet last night. Yum.

So today ... what am I going to process from the garden? And I finally broke down and bought a long overdue new vacuum. Put it together and use it lol.


Poor me thoughts can definitely overtake even the better days. Things have balanced with caretaker responsibility because mom is in care and dad is the primary. He still needs help but different fashion. He called last night and then dropped in unannounced... not a complete fan of that but he needs company. Downsizing him and selling his house and buying something in town is next... acckkk.

Habit stacking? Hmm. Heard the term. Do tell. Need those tips .

Today is a new day? What can I do with it?

Where do you find what to put on the cards?

I've done it several different ways and have settled on only having cards that directly relate to my life and have consequences that I don't like. It has to be proven worth the effort to do the card instead of dealing with the consequence.
I also started VERY small - just a couple cards a day until they became consistently doable. I am the queen of breaking things down into small pieces until i don't resist doing them. I get a dopamine hit (feel good) from marking cards done.

Habit stacking - YES! This is how I add something to what I am already doing. For me it has to be small and consistent.
One of the currently habit stacking tasks that I'm working on establishing is to take a piece of paper with me on my hourly mini walk outside. The hourly walk is fairly established habit. Dealing with paperwork is something that I procrastinate on BIG time. So I am habit stacking paperwork with mini walk resulting in dealing with one piece of paper each hour. While walking I look at the paper and decide what action needs to happen next with this piece of paper and do that action the moment I walk back inside the house.

just a quick hi - I am waving at all of you!!!!

dd younger called and a huge moth - 6" big boy/girl came into her place when she opened the door - she can't get it out. oh my goodness - she laughed bc it came right at her and she screamed for her neighbors to hear.

mom is next to me - I got her cleaned - it was a bit of a stubborn struggle with mom... she is feisty at times - oh my goodness - she does make me smile how stubborn and obstinate she can be; but she is clean from top to bottom and dressed!