today's video's from Kat talked about anxiety. I thought of when anxiety hits me is usually when I over goal for the day or week and I expect more from myself that is, for me, humanly impossible.
The anxiety sets in and the negative thinking starts
- I can't do what other people do - what's wrong with me
-I am lazy
-look you are unorganized
-and on and on
When we over-goal or our expectations for ourselves is not healthy or constructive we may let negative thinking into our minds and hearts. Maybe it is old voices from your past saying you are not good enough, the job has to be perfect - all or nothing thinking, i should volunteer to bake 1 million cupcakes, everyone needs me, I "should be able...." etc. Do you ever fall into that?
Stop and breath in and really look at what is actually important and what really can fall to the side. Don't expect yourself to be everything to everybody and expect so much from yourself that isn't healthy for your mind. Life is busy and messy and complicated but life is full of joy if we can say NO to the negativity and just do what you can.
Today Tuesday - how can you not over-goal. How can you be kind to yourself and not let the anxiety train take off. No should of or Could of. Simplify your day right now because you are worth it. No perfection!
We all have reasons, excuses why we put too much on our plate. Some days and weeks there is nothing you can do but ride the wave of what is happening but is it a habit? Have you not learned to say no. What is the reason behind it - I used to say it was because that no one volunteered or everyone needed me, many times I had multiple elder/or ill care and I was drained but a lot of the times then I made everything else so hard for me... making things more complex than I could do and not asking for help.
What can you do today to simplify your day? Do what you need (not what you perceive you need) today? How can you make your life less anxiety filled. You can do it! What can you do to take time to breath? What can you really let go of - and remember don't get into the habit of saying =well I didn't do it and that makes me a failure - No negative thinking. You are perfect, right now, where you are and who you are. You are a joy!