I think you're taking care of yourself, Dee. You probably need that down time and alone time.
For myself, I slept 12ish hours last night, in addition to the nap yesterday afternoon over an hour. I am just struggling with this nerve pain that comes in the back upper palate of my mouth. This is where a branch of the trigeminal nerve goes.
I am having an ongoing struggle with dh who I feel is refusing to cut me any slack. I didn't want to go to temple last night but he really wanted me to go - he has friends who just moved here who were to meet us there - and last night was "First Friday" with service and dinner following. So I agreed to go, and yesterday afternoon, maybe 3 p.m. he called and asked if these friends could come to the house for a glass of wine before we go to services. Dcleaning lady had just been here and the house was fine but I just felt "put upon." I can't explain it to him but it's like he just pushes and pushes and pushes me. So they got here late and only had about 20 min here - I assume dh wanted to show off the house - and they drove way out of their way to get here and then go on to temple.
Once I got to temple I was pretty good, but mouth started hurting when I talked through dinner and I took off soon after. (Dh coming home from work to "take me to temple" was supposed to be a treat, but I like being able to drive myself so I can leave when I want to. It's hard to get him going and I know he likes to be able to help clean up because he goes back on Sat a.m. for Torah study.) So I went to bed when I got home and slept 12 hours.
On the positive side, I put on makeup and several people commented that I looked great.
Tonight is a second "command performance" of the weekend. I have to go to a fundraiser for a cause that he has volunteered a lot of time and money for and it's always a drag. It's a live and silent auction and it's never fun for me. It's an opportunity to buy things one doesn't need and to sit through an overlong auction.
So I'm resisting anything else this weekend. Sigh. I'd run away but I don't want to leave home.
Sorry for the rant. I know I could "just say no" but I want to try to meet part way.
Be at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let every new year find you a better [wo]man. Ben Franklin