2025!!!!! Winter, Spring, Summer, Fall, winter again.

[Harriet]

Readjusting my continuing prayers for you as you move into a new phase of dh being home again, blessed. So glad your dmother got to see dr and have good report right before, plus you all got to know dr agreement with your decision to have her with her family/you.

I was able to do my exercise card today by doing it at 7 in a.m.
Personal routine card way overdue today waiting for its chance on a day out of the house, but it is getting done.
HRH took over decluttering project today, and I didn't even delegate, lol.
Personal routine card needs tweaking.

[blessedw2]

it's even better when our dh's declutter without even a hint in the air from us. how wonderful
yay on your exercise and yay on lookin to do your personal care cards today - I have to tweak mine as well.
have a wonderful day d harriet.

[blessedw2]

March 22, 2025

dh and d mom has made this morning challenging - dh took sodium water and he is not supposed to (it's intravenous) - he has sodium pills - it won't kill him - I looked - but it could have been a fatal mistake. He didn't know what it was for.
He got angry with me - if I say something he says it's nagging - he is just trying to push me away bc he wants to do things he shouldn't be doing. Playing dr. again.
He is not supposed to have anything by mouth and I found him chewing on a pill. He aspirates. He even had a talk from his nurse on our way out of the hospital.

I told mom her cloths were in the bathroom - she turned to me and said "what about you" I get dressed either early or after her - this morning I was planning the use the bathroom after her. She slept in her cloths last night - I fell asleep before her and she wouldn't get dressed that early (to her).

She told dh that I nag - she heard him being angry this morning - I am very patient with her.

dh didn't even know what he was missing meds wise - I set them up and now the rest of the meds are put away. - I have them marked Sat to next Sunday.

I am starting my day now 11:00 am
I am ready for the nurse - she came - he said he was great an hour and a half ago he looked terrible and was so out of it.
We mentioned that he put sodium chloride in his g tube (liquid from the hospital) she said that is an iv container.
he hasn't taken his sodium pills yet.
Thank Goodness dd was there bc she could stop the fibbing. she took care of a lot again.

mom: is now saying she wants to go down to Naples - that she can use her car. oh my gosh -
I will let her think and think -
she thinks she has to leave here - she is mad because she was watching tv for 2 hours and I turned it off bc her brain was getting mushy.

cards pulled


Me:
meds
s2s
breakfast
fitness

mom:
meds
breakfast
s2s
fitness
she brushed her teeth without me asking her too.!!! huge.
happy and with it.
has been a challenge this afternoon and a bit this morning.
she did fold her blankets


dogs:
dh fed dogs this morning
play with them even if cold
mental exercises
brush
let them out in bigger yard
let them in and close gate to bigger yard

House:
flipped laundry a few times
emptied dw
filled dw
cleaned counters
cleaned stove
cleaned table
put things upstairs
moved family room furniture - sweep, vacuum, rinse
fed the birds
water is still good
I had planned on making dinner but time got away from me.

all my outlets in the 3 season room have died mmm - it's okay bc it will be replaced. vacuumed part of the 3 season room.

call pulmonologist to see if he still needs a nebulizer and meds. on Monday make appointment
make g tube appointment
he has a dr. appointment on Monday.

dd older and I have had a long talk - we both have been feeling that we arent' having losses but aren't having wins either - that's hard to see for someone so young. Just when we get going something else happens - we both have been trying to be accommodating and positive but are struggling. We both have been using laughter to help us get through things - like we can't believe it and laugh at it because there is nothing else we can do. 2025 has been hard - 2023 the beginning when dh was hard in the first part of the year.

We have been through it before - it will pass - it's so much harder for dh. He also has made it very hard on himself by doing things that cause him to be very sick and almost die again. This morning, he looked bad, we even thought of having a nurse every day - if he does what he did this morning and before.
we realized that his lack of self care and playing dr. has made him so sick that it is very hard on us. His stubborn behavior is difficult.

the good - tonight he used the meds that I set up for him - no complaints and asked what he should use to clean his g tube area. we did tell him that he will be getting a nurse if he doesn't listen to the drs instruction - maybe he heard us.

its a new day tomorrow

[blessedw2]

hoping for a quiet and gentle day. I would like to have my usual inside joy to come back.

it is a new day though
March 23, 2025

my hope is to work on my garden stuff -

Me: I slept an extra hour - more like I took my time to get out of bed
s2s
meds
breakfast


Mom:
up at 10:00 am
breakfast
meds
getting dressed - feisty - told me that if her father were here that he would not expect her to change her underwear.
she spoke about the south of France and Alsace.

Dh: sounds silly but I am always glad to hear dh waking up - especially after him sleeping late -

Dogs: fed dogs - d Gracie hit the top of her legs hard on a large clay pot as she tried to jump over to get a squirrel. she has two good size bumps on her legs. she hit it so hard that it broke the pot. She was limping but stopped.

House:

dailies:

I have special cards

[Twins' Mom]

Glad you were able to get in a little extra rest, bw2. Lots of plates to keep spinning at your house.

[blessedw2]

hello dear twins - wishing you a wonderful week - I am hoping to get back to PWYC soon. Fingers crossed

[Twins' Mom]

((fingers crossed with you.))

[blessedw2]

march 26 Wednesday

waiting for dh's nurse. done - supposedly we should still have the nebulizer - he gave it back years ago.
they say no.
He did not have a speech person assigned to him but now we do.
I have to call the drs. for him to see

took dh's car keys - he wasn't happy but not angry at me. he was going to go for a drive\

nurse said dh had a little bit of congestion in his upper right lung. found out dh's blood pressure has been running low - I have to check it from now on.

made mom and I lunch
brother put a new shower head in yay
he fixed my shower doors yay
grateful

Mom:
meds check
breakfast lunch check
dressed check
brushed teeth/hair brushed check
oh my goodness she said something things in Alsatian and I know they weren't good words lol - she smiled at me afterward. a little bit of a stinker smile

Me: I honestly don't know if I took my meds - I don't think so. took them late - love my card file
s2s check
worked outside but didn't get dirty on purpose
picked up a cake for mom

house one load of dishes washed -
laundry
I have some more but not enough for another load
ordered some groceries Mexican tonight.

came across two men talking similar to arabic but different - I loved the language - he said it is a dialect - South African with arabic/French and other languages. beautiful

4:30 pm what needs doing. EVERYTHING

[blessedw2]

appointments to keep on hand:
dh pt tomorrow
dh general dr. at 11:00 ish fiday
march 29 dd and her cousins going out
march 31 his nurse
April 1 lung dr. dh 10 am
April 8 mom recheck
April 9 me video appointment
April 16th gastro?
April 28 mom neurologist recheck


3 days a week nurse dh
1 day a week speech
1 day a week pt

[blessedw2]

March 27, 2025 Thursday
I am looking forward to mornings where I wake up with joy - I had two days where I could feel it sneaking in. Today I feel a little apprehensive; don't know why. It's like I am waiting for something to happen that isn't good.

I think, that what I am feeling is worry.

so far dh woke up happy. mom woke up from a nightmare. She had a nightmare that everything here at my house was scary - she asked me if everything was back to normal -bc it looked normal. I reassured her that she had a nightmare and she went back to sleep.
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I also worry about dd Youngers future. her time being with mom - she said she wanted to do it and I Had disagreed - she should not have been her caretaker - it put her on hold - She didn't feel the need to pay bills etc. She had so many photo opportunities that she did but her ADHD couldn't keep up with the business end of it - having invoices currant etc. I think it is easy to blame things on caring for mom - but I asked her not to do - she was supposed to go to Florida (in the beginning) to help her brain - her depression etc. I didn't expect her to stay. -
I have told everyone that I will take work with dd - she has been trying very hard - I just don't want her stalling herself.
She is living at mom's apartment - but that can not last - I have asked dd older to stay off of it, my brother I will tell him I need to try things dd and my way.
My goal is to get her out of the apartment in six months into her own place bc the house will be used as a rental. It's hard on all of us to loose this part of our life but times have changed = I don't use it but I understand both girls feeling the way they do and mom feeling the way she does.
In a months time - I will make sure she pays towards social security if she isn't - she needs someone to help with invoices etc for a short time.
She is also sticking to one friend instead of multiple friends - but his friend will be moving with her boyfriend to another part of Florida in July. It won't be good for dd when her friend leaves.


I am taking d twins words to heart - Thrive
I was looking to survive the day - not a happy way to look at a day - my attitude change is in the process of changing from survive to thrive.

time to start:
mom:
eye drops
meds
breakfast

me s2s
meds

dh has been taking care of himself but I will insist on taking his bp.
I still have his keys hidden

dh had the pt person come with out me at the house. He enjoyed being free.

mom and I did errands - she was feisty with me - - I had to call my brother so that he could explain that she didn't have to worry about the hospital bill - she didn't believe me and she has been quick to snap at me today - it didn't bother me - she told my brother about me "I am old not dead". mom mom mom. he told her the same thing that I did - it made her happy - it's all good.

She wanted a Stella Artois - I asked the waitress if she could have half a glass instead - she barely touches it. Mom wasn't happy and told the surprised waitress - "Do not listen to her - I am not old and I can drink what I want and how much I want" - waitress said "okay?" mom was super fiesty - She drank a couple sips - today she irritated towards me.

his dr. appointment is tomorrow - dd older will be with her until she has to go to appointment - If I am not back then she will take her with her. I will miss her when she buys her first home! But it is important for her to move on.