I have to admit that I was shocked by my behavior. I do not like the feeling of anger and work really hard to stay away from that feeling by talking or working things out. I am stressed by being at mom's at least twice a day and that I am not getting things done before winter like I usually do.
I am sure that Dh decision to do what he wants added to it - I have tried to explain about the right sink and the smell from the garbage disposal bc it's not turned on after throwing things down. dh and I spoke and I told him what I did was not right and not respectful. I apologized but an apology is only good if one works hard not to do it again. I always worry that this might be a sign of future ahlzheimers. I will keep an eye on it. My grandmother was in her 70's and 80s, my grandfather was 90 - 94.
I have to admit I was proud of myself with a relative. She told me something that I wouldn't do and I just let it go. She couldn't see why a Dr's office worker was upset with her. I listened kindly. She didn't need me to tell her, what she did ,added extra work for someone else. no Dudley do right's need here. Same with dh-he doesn't need me to do that to him too.
-----------------------------------------------
You are very kind!
d twins yay on voting
that wasn't long at all for voting.
enjoy your veg out time!
I 100% agree that sometimes days are productive or not. you are right it's all okay!!! I love that we cheer each other on!
Next: go upstairs and see if there are any dirty dishes.

dirty towels thrown down the stairs - dd younger has to do her laundry which is building up in laundry room.
ask dd's to look at mom's cameras and call her to take her water. I have already been in contact 3 times.
dw/dryer is clean on top
dw emptied again
I have found 4 dog balls - I have been looking for them -
dd younger came home after a beautiful new hair cut - 12" off and it still is below her shoulders. really nice. Both my girls have dh's straight hair and dd older has my thick hair - her pony tail is as thick as a horse tail. Mine was like that when young except I have always had a wave or frizz

dd older hair is a dark brown almost black as my hair was; dd younger has brown hair but lighter than dd older's.
cleaning angels are coming tomorrow - normally dh won't let anyone clean his room and bathroom but I think I convinced him to do the bedroom - the dust is overwhelming. I will clean the bathroom bc he hasn't. He doesn't understand that cleaning it every 2 weeks (at least) keeps it looking nice.