ARE you in a manic mood, or are you calming sipping hot tea and enjoying watching all the other people out in chaos of last-minute preparations?
I'm kind of in a mix of things -- still lots to do, but I think I have a realistic plan that will get it all done.
Today, after church, we had a council meeting and our pastor, another lady (one of my Wednesday night class members), and I were the last ones to leave. Pastor asked if we had lunch plans and neither of us did, so we all went to local Chinese buffet. That was nice, talking to adults for a change who were not children or in a class setting.
I came home, turned on the Christmas lights, put on my "cuddl duds" -- those thin versions of long Johns, you know, and curled up on the couch. Of course I was out like a light. It was so chilly and rainy outside, and I just wanted to enjoy the quiet. I had tried to watch the 20/20 program from Friday night -- the JonBenet Ramsey story -- but I kept dozing off, so I turned the TV onto a football game. Low volume.
It was ALMOST dark when I woke up. Took the trash to the road and worked on Christmas cards, while finishing the 20/20 program.
THEN... I realized that I was sending a card to the widow of one of dh's cousins... and I had written a note assuming she knew about dh... but I do not remember actually talking to her at the time of dh's death. She lives in another state.
So I called dbil and he does not know if she knows about dh...
Called dh's only girl cousin... and she does not know... but y'all... this is embarrassing. I think I (we) might qualify for the Guiness World Records. We were on the phone FOUR HOURS and 26 minutes. I know... I know... this is insane. But she talked as much as I did. It was not ALL me, I promise.
She has health problems, family concerns, and has lost some of her best friends in the past year, and we just talked.
To get to the point of the call, she felt bad that she had not talked to her cousin's wife either, in quite a while, so I told her I would call another family member tomorrow and let her know what I could learn. If I find out the cousin's wife has not been told, SHE is going to call her as a "I don't send cards, so just wanted to wish you a merry Christmas," check in, and in the course of the conversation, she will mention that Lucy is doing okay, but it's going to be a hard Christmas... etc... and see how she reacts. If she does not know, cousin will make apologies for not calling herself and say Lucy just wasn't thinking clearly at the time. Sigh. I wish I knew what was going on -- this lady is on FB but has not posted in a year or so -- we may find out that she herself is having health trouble of some sort.
I also sent a text to Dfriend to see if she could have lunch this week -- step out of my comfort zone, you know, because I usually wait for her to make the plans. She has entertained all of her husband's large family today, and will get back with me tomorrow or Tuesday.
I have all my cards addressed, except one that I did find out tonight, through dbil's fiance, another older lady I send a card to is in assisted living. Fiance will try to find an address for me when she gets to work Tuesday. I will have to put a label sticker on the envelope to change address but I think it will be okay. I certainly hope SHE knows about dh, but surely she does -- we did receive flowers from "The ___ Family," which would be her and her two sons/their families. She and my dmil were very good friends and she was ds's third grade teacher.
I am also debating about what to write in the card I will send Harmony. Should I tell her about dh? Will that be just too depressing? I wish we knew Harmony's state of mind at this point. I wish Sunny or Harmony's DD would post an update for us. I think I'll send Sunny a PM.
Tomorrow (today?) my PODA looks like this --
-- Call cousin 2 re: Cousin Out of State
-- Call cousin 1 re: info from cousin 2
-- Call BBQ place and order our meal for Christmas Eve
-- Wmart
-- Mail dniece's bday card with gift card (which I will need to purchase at Wmart.) Found out dniece won't be home until the 30th, and her bday is Saturday.
-- Go to post office, go to electric co-op and pay bill
-- Type up accounting for dbil's tickets -- we settle up at the end of the year -- condo expenses vs ticket expenses. Usually he owes us money. I hope that holds true again.
I hope today starts a great week for all of you and you all finish all the holiday work in time to truly relax and enjoy the holiday!
CI: It's now 3:12 and I am shutting down from trying to figure out what dbil will owe me (OR I will owe him!!!) for tickets. He has ALWAYS ended up paying us because tickets are more expensive than condo expenses. I could NOT figure out why I had not paid the big expense so far... search, search, search... finally see that LAST DECEMBER, I paid it on the 14th. It should come this week, I guess.
I was so afraid I had missed something during the first month or so after dh passed away. Some of dbil's expenses were noted in dh's handwriting, from basketball last winter. Some, I have had to keep up with myself since fall began and dbil ordered away game tickets. Whew... I did not want to give dbil any cause to doubt my bookkeeping, but I certainly want to charge him for all that is on his side of the ledger.