Managing Payroll, Home and Life - weekly lists - week April 14th-20th ｡.･☆°°*☆ﾟ°°*'°¨

[FrenchFlybebe]

A new week is starting.
This post is for any one who wants to be accountable on a weekly basis - but anyone else is welcome as well

Week April14th-April 20th :
Priorities :
I want to start my letter to Dfriend J--
I need a hair appt.
Payroll and self-care (always priorities, and they will get done mostly)

Payroll :
(_) boss is welcoming new intern that I knew nothing about until very late - I hope she doesn't intend me to spend time with him this week
(_) very important meeting on Tuesday, with boss's boss - maybe I expect too much out of it ?
(_) the week's main themes : ff, rev, Tal? RAN
(_) Be professionnal, be cool, be nice
(_) try and enjoy some daily processes

Home :
(_) Weekly Zone with FlyLady : Zone 3 = (_) (_) (_) (_) (_) Both bathrooms
(_) I need to work on Zone 4 / Master Bedroom : declutter / sort sewing and knitting supplies
(_) vacuum DS9's bedroom x2
(_) search for dustmite-proof bedlinen
(_) 30 mn detailed cleaning
(_) 30 mn decluttring, organizing

Organisation / paperwork :
(_) FACE
(_) kids are on Spring break - one day at daycare, four days with MrNG
(_) Easter : the "bells" have to bring chocolate during Easter night. - buy more chocolate eggs?
(_) payroll lunches (_) (_) (_) (_)
(_) family photobook for 2024 : (_) sort December (_) add Dec pics (_) final touches ?
(_) weekly menus, weekly online grocery order, (_) weekly grocery pick up
(_) a bit of shopping : (_) sweaters for DS9 (_) sweatpants for DS6 (_) khaki slacks for me
(_) family budget : sort data
(_) letter for J--- <- I want to get this done
(_) make hair appt <- I would like to get this done
(_) parcel to fetch at Al---
(_) secondhand computer for the kids ?

Self care :
(_) Go for a run or walk-run or any good cardio (_) (_) and (_) (_) strength training
(_) habits : daily flossing :
(_) habit 2 : daily pelvic floor exercises : (_) (_) (_) (_) (_) (_) (_)
(_) contact lenses : no delivery slot ???
(_) eye doc appt in September / October ? try by phone ? try website again with other name ?

Brain and leisure (fill blanks)
(_) read ...
(_) decide on some project to keep my hands busy, now that the sweater is finished ?
(_) piano :
(_) German :
(_) Spanish :
(_) other achievements

Goals - brain dump - so I don't forget :
all health appts taken first quarter of 2025 : dermato, ob-gyn, ORL / mend DS9's schoolbag handle, remend his schoolbag strap on the left / FACE / Moocs / Linux laptop / files and folders : structure on both laptops and black hard-drive / family budget : work on it ! / take care of social life / find some piece of land to grow trees on / autumn decor project, winter decor project / German podcasts, progress in German / same in Spanish / paint walls upstairs / repair upstairs shower / change water heater / FACE sessions / electric system needs to be regulation-compliant : find electrician, price quote, make appts, have work done, pay bill / sell my current car after buying a new one (finances permitting) / Power BI training / Tableau training / new hair cut / Wiriting project

[Kittykatt]

Thank you for starting this thread, FFB.

I noticed your eye doctor is proving very difficult to contact, and you can't through by phone or email. Is it possibly time for a good old-fashioned letter? (I don't know what the French postal service is like, so this may not be feasible).

[Kittykatt]

Monthly tasks for April:

Clean windows and maybe some cladding
Flush through drainage channels on windows, oil hinges and grease contact points
Soda crystals down outside drains
Wash rugs in bedroom and spare room
Clean fridge
Clean filters on dishwasher
Run dishwasher cleaning cycle
Run cleaning cycle on washing machine
Wash my cleaning cloths
Review household budget, making changes when necessary WIP
15 minutes on paperwork #1, #2, #3, #4
15 minutes on photos #1 #2 #3 #4
Clip kitty nails F, J, M
Brush Kitties F, J, M
Flea control for Kitties F, J, M
Solensia appointment for Freddie 1/4, 29/4
Order Fred's meds and Matilda's Laxapet from vet
Collect Fred's and Matilda's meds
Jude's weight check appointment 3/4
Order cat food for anyone - dried food for Jude wet and dry food for Matilda ,skin supplement for Freddie
Change Feliway plug in
Change head on electric toothbrush 1/4
Read a book, purely for pleasure - I am reading "The Man who Died Twice" by Richard Osman
Wash filters on downstairs Dyson, upstairs Dyson and hand held hoover
Wash my combs

To be continued...
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[FrenchFlybebe]

kittykatt, thanks for trying to help. No, it wouldn't work. The only way left (what I did before I worked full time, when I needed an appt) is to drive there and wait a bit (5 to 10 people waiting most times) and book a slot on the spot. Retired people and people with an easy schedule can do that. The others... I don't know.
I'll try again, though. The phone number on their website will certainly make something ring somewhere in their offices, eventually someone might answer if I'm lucky. After one hour of ringing maybe ?

So, "interesting" meeting at payroll with boss and boss's boss. I now know that she can lie without the blink of an eye. No way of knowing what she can have told others about me, I can only imagine she can be damaging. Well at least now I know. I can't prove it.
And there is no right way to ask what she has been accusing me of, behind my back.
I'm officially working with a toxic manager. Not the first time, but experience tells me that it's exhausting and that toxic people won't change.
She's 60. She won't retire before a few more years.
I will probably have to find another job.

Week April14th-April 20th :

Payroll :
(_) boss is welcoming new intern that I knew nothing about until very late - I hope she doesn't intend me to spend time with him this week
very important meeting on Tuesday, with boss's boss - maybe I expect too much out of it ?
(_) the week's main themes : ff, rev, Tal? RAN
(_) Be professionnal, be cool, be nice
(_) try and enjoy some daily processes

[Kittykatt]

FFB, that sounds dreadful! Is your Boss like this with everyone? I'm sure your Boss's Boss must know what's going on, but is probably just waiting for her to retire. I think you're right and it's probably time to start looking for a new job. You're in a strong position now , as you already have a job, and you've been there some time. (Many, many years ago, I had a bad case of work place bullying , and it got to the point where the only way was out So, I left, and started my own business.) Are you a Union member? Could they help at all with this? I think that even starting to do some preparatory work for job hunting, like updating your CV, would help you feel less "trapped", and that you're doing something positive about the situation. (((HUGS)))

[FrenchFlybebe]

Thanks for your support kittykatt. That's true, I'm in a better position to look for a job now than a year ago. I have started with a few touches to my Linked In profile, and the resume may be next. I may stay in the job, but at least it will feel like I have options.
I think boss's boss (both of her bosses) is suspecting she can lie. From some things said in the meeting and some faces, there was some unsaid message like "hey, I'm trying to help in this situation that is tricky for me too, I know she can be difficult to handle, but I can't afford to fire her, please look like you're making an effort".
Today was slightly easier. I need to walk a thin line in order to keep her wickedness away.

[Kittykatt]

FFB, I'm glad your Boss's Boss seems to know what is going on, and that things are sounding slightly more positive.

I haven't done much towards my "monthly" list this week, but there's still time!

[Kittykatt]

Monthly tasks for April:

Clean windows and maybe some cladding
Flush through drainage channels on windows, oil hinges and grease contact points
Soda crystals down outside drains
Wash rugs in bedroom and spare room
Clean fridge
Clean filters on dishwasher
Run dishwasher cleaning cycle
Run cleaning cycle on washing machine
Wash my cleaning cloths
Review household budget, making changes when necessary WIP
15 minutes on paperwork #1, #2, #3, #4
15 minutes on photos #1 #2 #3 #4
Clip kitty nails F, J, M
Brush Kitties F, J, M
Flea control for Kitties F, J, M
Solensia appointment for Freddie 1/4, 29/4
Order Fred's meds and Matilda's Laxapet from vet Also Freddie's "special" food
Collect Fred's and Matilda's meds and Fred's fiid
Jude's weight check appointment 3/4
Order cat food for anyone - dried food for Jude wet and dry food for Matilda ,skin supplement for Freddie
Change Feliway plug in
Change head on electric toothbrush 1/4
Read a book, purely for pleasure - I am reading "The Man who Died Twice" by Richard Osman
Wash filters on downstairs Dyson, upstairs Dyson and hand held hoover
Wash my combs

To be continued...
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[Kittykatt]

More work on those photos yesterday!
Monthly tasks for April:

Clean windows and maybe some cladding
Flush through drainage channels on windows, oil hinges and grease contact points
Soda crystals down outside drains
Wash rugs in bedroom and spare room
Clean fridge
Clean filters on dishwasher
Run dishwasher cleaning cycle
Run cleaning cycle on washing machine
Wash my cleaning cloths
Review household budget, making changes when necessary WIP
15 minutes on paperwork #1, #2, #3, #4
15 minutes on photos #1 #2 #3 #4
Clip kitty nails F, J, M
Brush Kitties F, J, M
Flea control for Kitties F, J, M
Solensia appointment for Freddie 1/4, 29/4
Order Fred's meds and Matilda's Laxapet from vet Also Freddie's "special" food
Collect Fred's and Matilda's meds and Fred's fiid
Jude's weight check appointment 3/4
Order cat food for anyone - dried food for Jude wet and dry food for Matilda ,skin supplement for Freddie
Change Feliway plug in
Change head on electric toothbrush 1/4
Read a book, purely for pleasure - I am reading "The Man who Died Twice" by Richard Osman
Wash filters on downstairs Dyson, upstairs Dyson and hand held hoover
Wash my combs

To be continued...
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[FrenchFlybebe]

Kittykatt, I need to work on photos too.

Week April14th-April 20th :
Priorities :
I want to start my letter to Dfriend J--
I need a hair appt.
Payroll and self-care (always priorities, and they will get done mostly)

Payroll :
boss is welcoming new intern that I knew nothing about until very late - I hope she doesn't intend me to spend time with him this week
very important meeting on Tuesday, with boss's boss - maybe I expect too much out of it ?
the week's main themes : ff, rev, Tal? RAN
(_) Be professionnal, be cool, be nice
(_) try and enjoy some daily processes - 50% / 50%

Home :
(_) Weekly Zone with FlyLady : Zone 3 = (_) (_) (_) (_) (_) Both bathrooms
(_) I need to work on Zone 4 / Master Bedroom : declutter / sort sewing and knitting supplies
(_) vacuum DS9's bedroom x2
(_) search for dustmite-proof bedlinen
(_) 30 mn detailed cleaning
(_) 30 mn decluttering, organizing

Organisation / paperwork :
(_) FACE
kids are on Spring break - one day at daycare, four days with MrNG
Easter : the "bells" have to bring chocolate during Easter night. - buy more chocolate eggs?
(_) payroll lunches (_) (_) (_)
(_) family photobook for 2024 : (_) sort December (_) add Dec pics (_) final touches ?
weekly menus, weekly online grocery order, weekly grocery pick up - MrNG did it, mostly
(_) a bit of shopping : (_) sweaters for DS9 (_) sweatpants for DS6 (_) khaki slacks for me
(_) family budget : sort data
(_) letter for J--- <- I want to get this done STARTED
(_) make hair appt <- I would like to get this done
parcel to fetch at Al---
(_) secondhand computer for the kids ?

Self care :
(_) Go for a run or walk-run or any good cardio (_) (_) and (_) (_) strength training
habits : daily flossing : I think I did it daily
(_) habit 2 : daily pelvic floor exercises : (_) (_) (_)
contact lenses : no delivery slot ??? OK, solved
(_) eye doc appt in September / October ? try by phone ? try website again with other name ?

Brain and leisure (fill blanks)
(_) read H. BOll's Katarina Blum + The Wind in the Willows (as French cartoon) with DSs
(_) decide on some project to keep my hands busy, now that the sweater is finished ?
(_) piano :
German : I'm now taking notes at payroll in German sometimes so boss can't read it when I'm away
(_) Spanish :
(_) other achievements

Goals - brain dump - so I don't forget :
all health appts taken first quarter of 2025 : dermato, ob-gyn, ORL / mend DS9's schoolbag handle, remend his schoolbag strap on the left / FACE / Moocs / Linux laptop / files and folders : structure on both laptops and black hard-drive / family budget : work on it ! / take care of social life / find some piece of land to grow trees on / autumn decor project, winter decor project / German podcasts, progress in German / same in Spanish / paint walls upstairs / repair upstairs shower / change water heater / FACE sessions / electric system needs to be regulation-compliant : find electrician, price quote, make appts, have work done, pay bill / sell my current car after buying a new one (finances permitting) / Power BI training / Tableau training / new hair cut / Wiriting project