Harmony, how do you feel?
To sing or not to sing...I am one who was told as a teen not to sing because my voice wasn't good enough. This was an older cousin. I have no idea whether she had a leg to stand on in her opinion at that time
Later when I was helping my late dh in a ministry situation with few workers, the choir leader begged for choir members and I agreed to ride along with my talented bass husband to practices to try. She said she was glad to have me and often people would ask me why I never sang out before. I hardly believed them until one choir practice when the man who did the technical sound stuff (and was a quick critic) was close to another mic as I finished a practice of a solo, and he was audible saying "beautiful voice"... about me!
Nowadays I sing from the pew, though, because of the tendency to get emotional in a choir. I suppose some psychologist could explain that to me as having something to do with associating my late dh with choirs. Also, in our church the choir is pretty much over in favor of the praise band now. I did enjoy helping in one play when 3 of us ladies sang "backup" (lol) to the narration at one point. I was only there waiting to drive dd home after a practice and the other 2 just dragged me up between them saying, "help"!