And I don't think ddil is taking my frustration personally at all, b/c she wrote & promptly mailed thank you's for shower in her hometown. She is just putting her foot down re: the fact that ds should be present and cooperative in writing thank you's for HIS friends/family here.
And like Harriet, I think ds & I are open enough that I can say WRITE 'EM to him... BUT... that does not mean he will do it.
Soooo... deep breath...
I appreciate the Northern philosophy, Kathryn,
TY notes are not paramount.
-- Cause I was thinking maybe it WAS a Southern thing and that was why ddil wasn't as fed up w/ds as I am.
BUT I WILL TRY REALLY REALLY HARD TO GIVE IT UP.
When I want to mention it, I will pray about it.
When I want to worry about it, I will pray about it.
And y'all are right -- I must pick my battles, and (as MT said) -- I am doing what I am supposed to do... Ishould not be judged on this -- people know I write thank you's promptly. I wrote to all the hostesses within a week of the event, anyway! And I wrote thank yous for all dfil's funeral flowers. (In dmil's name, but most people in our circle would recognize my handwriting, anyway.)
Young people ARE different, Ivy, and I couldn't even remember if dnephew had written a thank you to us for his (generous, for us) graduation gift. DH said he had not, but if I couldn't remember, then maybe most people don't remember if ds/ddil have written theirs, either.
Thanks to all of you who have tried repeatedly to give me a reality-check on this issue...
I'm sure I can imagine what dIndiana would be saying, too...
WTG, to Harriet's ds!!!
I have plenty of ta-da's for the night but no time to say them... I'm only here b/c dfriend interrupted my grading papers and asked me to send a couple of school-related e-mails. This week is
* Homecoming
* Report card week
* 2-hour meeting tomorrow morning, taking me out of class
* Walk-through/high pressure visit from Bd of Ed Powers That Be
* AND -- week that I've got to prepare for substitute for 2 days at end of week
Yes... it is kinda crazy around here right now.