Re: Tahini Cookie Tuesday @ TDD - C&C
Posted: Tue Dec 09, 2025 8:34 pm
trissie, I don't mind at all if you ask questions about foster care. In fact, I get on a soap box about it, because there are people who think that foster children are bad. They have it confused with juvenile detention. So I let people know, because no one is intimidated by me. It might give someone confidence to let their child be friends with a foster child and not isolate them.
The truth is, I never got a straight story on why we ended up in foster care, but my eldest sister's version sounds like the likeliest. My parents both had issues and we lived sometimes with both parents, sometimes just with my mother, and one time my siblings ended up living just with my father and I was sent off to live with strangers. My sister said that at one point, both parents were in the hospital at the same time and the girls did their best to hide the fact that we were living with no adults in the house, but when that came to light, we were turned over to the foster care system. My eldest sister is the only one who got to live with one of our parents again. Personally, I think that both parents were relieved to have the responsibility taken off of them. I am of the last generation where most people really couldn't avoid having children so a lot of people ended up with a lot of responsibility that they didn't want, didn't enjoy, and weren't good at. By the time I came of age, there was still a lot of pressure on girls to get married and spend their lives cleaning up after people, but society had changed enough that we could push back if we were really determined.
I am sorry for your family drama. One of my big blessings in life is the ability to leave behind dramatic family members. When the drama drags on like that, it is that much harder to take. I hope it resolves soon, or at least abates.
The apartment got cold, so I have spent a lot of time hiding in the bathroom next to the heater. But I did come out clean and with hair washed, so that's one I can strike off the list.
Go, Bama!
That's a cat, Kittykatt! My db's new cat uses the cat tree in his bedroom to observe him while he sleeps, LOL. We think that he is working his way toward sleeping in the bed.
Hi, Peaches
That is some bad timing on the car's part, helia. I hope that your DH can get it sorted out before your trip.
L.Ann, can Santa bring tickets to an outing with her friends?
That was lucky timing, Gma. Have a good sleep.
The truth is, I never got a straight story on why we ended up in foster care, but my eldest sister's version sounds like the likeliest. My parents both had issues and we lived sometimes with both parents, sometimes just with my mother, and one time my siblings ended up living just with my father and I was sent off to live with strangers. My sister said that at one point, both parents were in the hospital at the same time and the girls did their best to hide the fact that we were living with no adults in the house, but when that came to light, we were turned over to the foster care system. My eldest sister is the only one who got to live with one of our parents again. Personally, I think that both parents were relieved to have the responsibility taken off of them. I am of the last generation where most people really couldn't avoid having children so a lot of people ended up with a lot of responsibility that they didn't want, didn't enjoy, and weren't good at. By the time I came of age, there was still a lot of pressure on girls to get married and spend their lives cleaning up after people, but society had changed enough that we could push back if we were really determined.
I am sorry for your family drama. One of my big blessings in life is the ability to leave behind dramatic family members. When the drama drags on like that, it is that much harder to take. I hope it resolves soon, or at least abates.
The apartment got cold, so I have spent a lot of time hiding in the bathroom next to the heater. But I did come out clean and with hair washed, so that's one I can strike off the list.
Go, Bama!
That's a cat, Kittykatt! My db's new cat uses the cat tree in his bedroom to observe him while he sleeps, LOL. We think that he is working his way toward sleeping in the bed.
Hi, Peaches
That is some bad timing on the car's part, helia. I hope that your DH can get it sorted out before your trip.
L.Ann, can Santa bring tickets to an outing with her friends?
That was lucky timing, Gma. Have a good sleep.
Of course. He did exactly what the mechanic at the garage did. He said it is above freezing now (33) so that is why he thinks it works now.