I wanted to say more earlier, but DGS was running around here talking.
I've had a pretty full day --
* took DGD to McD's for lunch, then took her home, brought DGS home with me
* took Christmas card w/$ to my renter
* went to Dollar General for dmom and stopped to get ice for her, took that to her and sat awhile and talked with her
* stopped at the grocery store for items DG did not have (took them home with me; she will get them later)
* wrapped presents -- everything is wrapped now, except ONE thing for dgs, which I am waiting till tomorrow to see if other item shows up so I can wrap them together
* ate supper w/dgs
* put gifts in bags to take to dbil's tomorrow
* washed a load of clothes, need to take care of that now (hang to dry, fold dgrands' clothes)
* texted with dcousin's wife out of state, who sent message to thank me for Christmas card -- her dh died a few years ago. He was a favorite of mine.
My heart just goes out to you ladies who are facing such hard times with your dhusbands... (((Cathy))), (((Rose))), (((LadyM))). I can only imagine how difficult this is for you and your dhusbands, and I'm glad to see that you are able to get home health aides when it has become necessary.
I fear so much getting to this point with my dmom.
Happy birthday, Twins! I hope your dh does get DD in town to celebrate with you!
(((Nancy)))
It is only my 2nd Christmas without dh, but I do dread some of the events, and don't know what/how much I want to participate.
I will go to church
tomorrow night,
and to dbil's,
and then DS and family will come over here to open their gifts from me/mine from them. I'm really nervous about those teddy bears. I hope the dgrands will appreciate them but not be sad about them.
On
Thursday, dmom may go with me to daunt's to visit with duncle.
And she and I may join their larger gathering at 3:00 pm, but dmom said she didn't want to eat with anyone, because her shoulder gives her so much trouble that she can't really use her right arm. So she's learning to eat with her left hand and feels very self-conscious about it. She really needs to have surgery on her shoulder but has heard it is a very difficult surgery and recovery is also very hard. She did mention going to assisted living for the recovery time.
Once again she has mentioned that IF ONLY my dbro would move back up here, she would tell her renter she has to move to my grandmother's house "so we (DS/ddil/me) could 'take care of her.'" But that is just about like saying "IF pigs begin to fly..." or "IF George Strait comes to town and proposes to you..." Nothing is going to change -- she also said, "I am about ready to tell your brother that duncle is right -- when I die, he will come home long enough to sell this house and then go back to Florida and y'all will never see him again."
I just don't understand it. She is
81 years old. Does he not realize that she would like to see him more often than once a year??? Actually, has he been home since dh died? I don't think so. Maybe once? Not more than once. SMH.
Festivus. We need to have Festivus if he ever does come back.
Anyway --
Friday we DS/family and I will celebrate with dmom; maybe she will go to Waffle House with us, maybe not? Who knows.
Merry Christmas to all of you I have not named -- I hope your family gatherings are happy, and if you are alone, I hope you are at peace and content. I hope there are no health crises with anyone and that those who have been under the weather will feel much better for the celebrations.
I am so thankful for all of you ladies.
